Whats up, 'im a college student here in Virgina. I really want to overcome my shyness when it comes to meeting women. Once I know the girl or i'm introduced to the girl I have no problem interacting with them, its just the openers I find hard to do. When I'm intoxicated I actually dont have a problem walking up to a chick and introducing myself because im drunk, I dont give a fuck. But, sober I think too much about the situation and what she will think of me. If you have any tips let me know!

Sweet T

Hey man I kinda have the same problem, cant approach unless Im a little drunk. What I decided to do was to approach no matter what and after a few approaches wether good or bad you begin to lose your AA.
Good luck with your game

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Feel the fear and do it anyway!

Everyone has this problem, I have it but I'm also new to the game!
I've learned that if you don't try an approach when sober you will never gain the experience to try again! So what if you have a turn down!

Next time your in the field and see a HB count to three and just open!

I wish you luck!

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All reply's are welcome

From your
TopWorm Bunion

It's just like lifting weights. When you feel the burn, you know ur growing. When you approach even though you feel a little awkward, ur growing. I'm there too, it's not going to feel comfortable until we break through the uncomfortableness (I already know that's not a word. . .).

-H!j!nx

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"Thinking outside the box, that's how you get what you've never gotten."

Appreciate it guys, my friend is having a double kegger tomorrow night with probably around 60-70 people. I'm going to TRY not to get too wasted so I can actually get a little practice in on my openers while im still sober. Ill let everyone know how it goes.

THREE SECOND RULE!

I think this rule is the most crucial in mitigating approach anxiety; once you count to three, its all or nothing. And the more you do a night, the less it burns.

Like mentioned earlier, its just like weightlifting. I lift alot of weights and I just remind myself..."If you can take benching this huge amount of weight, then walking up to a girl should be no monumental task." Easier said than done =P

But I'm also new to the game, and after doing a few nights of just practicing openers, it's not that difficult. What's more difficult is in A2; trying to sustain that social hook point.

- Vibez

I'm about halfway through reading "The Game" by Neil Strauss and he mentions the 3 second rule several times. Im a bit curious to see how it works though, I dont even know if I have the balls to approach in 3 seconds, I guess you just have to act on instict and not think about it.

Yeah, sometimes I take the time to think of the perfect thing to say, the PERFECT THING. And by the time I have it, the hottie I wanted to chat up is halfway to some other guy's place who had the balls to approach in 3 seconds. . .tragedy. . .

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"Thinking outside the box, that's how you get what you've never gotten."