hey guys, i'm bigafc, so called for obvious reasons. I'm 20 and I've never really gone clubbing or anything before. i don't consider myself bad with women in general but when it comes to clubs and parties im just not in my comfort zone.
So I went to a club last night, opened some sets, but each time i ran out of things to say really quickly and the girls were kinda confused as to why i was still standing there. eventually i got really nervous and just left the club because i was such a creep. the one thing i got out of it is that im not as scared of approaching as i was before cuz the worst that can happen is just getting rejected. one girl actually just said the word no to me before i even opened my mouth, which when i think about it is kinda funny. it also makes me think of the importance of negs and teasing and stuff, because i realized that breaking rapport and creating negative emotions actually establishes some form of connection between you and her, albeit negative, which actually gives you a reason to stay in the set.
anyways my biggest problem now is not running out of stuff to say, any suggestions?

sounds like you're going into the sets with the frame "this is awkward meeting you for the first time... please don't think I'm a creep" women can pick up on your attitude. You've got to come at them with the frame "you look like you might be able to make my life (which is already great) that much more interesting"

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interesting. that makes sense. the thing is, i do feel kinda weird about it. I mean most people go out with their friends to dance and have a good time, so being out by myself feels loserish from the get go, and then approaching people who are already with friends feels weird. i feel like im intruding.