hello all,
im arthur, and im just getting into this community. ive done bit with women over the years, but not as much as ive liked, and besides committing myself to fitness and general inner game improvement, im very interested in what the seasoned vets here have to say. as an introduction, i think itd be a nice idea to share and get input on a girl i wanted to hook up with but failed to, but who has recently been wanting to hang out.

now the old game im referring to is some chick i met a few years ago. she is one of the more flirty and teasy types, although what i heard from her and others suggest that she hasnt had many partners, may even still be a V (though im not sure how much of this can be believed). it seems that shes basically a flirty prude.

anyway being the AFC that i was, i was a friend to her for awhile, including while she dated some other guy for a few months (she claims they never got far). a few months after they broke up, we hung out a few times, and then in big AFC fashion (since this had worked before with a girl i had dated for a few years, but who i already knew was into me, i simply assumed it would work again), i basically confessed to her. not even in person, but by email, in the middle of the night.

she responded the next morning by giving some soft letdown stuff, such as "thanks for telling me how you felt, it took alot of balls", and "i had just gotten out of a kinda serious relationship, i'm in the process of recovery and self discovery, i wish i knew when this ends." the nail in the coffin was when, after a bit more babbling, she concluded with "i value our friendship." i pretty much felt like, as the ladder theory people would say, an intellectual whore. but at least i knew where i stood, and i knew i had to move forward and expand.

then two things happened which i cant really decode, and would like your opinions. one day out of the blue a few months later, this girl told me that she had seen her ex that day, didnt feel a shock, and thought she was over him. i wasnt really sure how to respond at the time, as i had long since gotten past the disappointment and begun to distance myself from her. shortly afterwards, she wanted to start hanging out again.

what am i to make of this? the rejection phase sounds pretty standard, but why would she suddenly announce to me when she got over her ex, after we had not talked much for months since the rejection? did i make a misread? how should i have responded?

i'd like to know what i should do with this girl. on the one hand i dont believe that the lead-on aspect of her personality has changed, perhaps she simply is in need of friendship again. on the other hand, given what i know of her history, what if she was...telling the truth during the rejection? are these iois? if she had no interest in me then why would she bother communicating this?

looking forward to what the forumers here have to say, and looking forward even more to the rich resources here as i continue to improve!