well today i went to the movies with my buddy and we decided to try to pick up girls and we saw these two cute girls and i watched the show the pickup artist though it was my first time ever trying to pickup a girl and i came up to her and her friend and said, hey quick question i need a girls opinion on this, there like okay, (and at the same time i was a nervous wreck i had butterflys to the max) i said if a girl is dateing a guy and the girl kisses another guy is it cheating she saidd yeahh, andd i then i said what if the girl kisses another girl and they still said yeah, and then they had this weird look on there face after i asked that so i said you two must be best friends you both made the same reaction and the face got even weirder and they were like, okay byee and they walked away and after that i felt like my self-esteem and confidence died completely i was to scared to talk to a girl the rest of the day because i had fear of rejection and embarrassment. Is this normal to feel after a first rejection? i dont know what to do, im super nervous when im about to come up to a random girl and try to pick her up, i no what to say i just have no confidence. can anyone give me a tip or tell me what i did wrong please. Thank you, by the way my name is Odie and i currently just started reading the book " The Game" with neil strauss

Why the hell do you feel bad for a rejection? You actually went for it man, that's awesome! So what if the girls made the mistake of leaving you, that's their loss! Don't view this as a rejection at all, you should see it as a lesson.

That you got rejected means that there's room for improvement, and this happens to everyone, it's the ONLY way to really learn!

And ofcourse, I can understand how you feel about rejection given that you haven't developed the right mindset yet. But my best advice is: Keep at it! Don't let them bring you down if their stupid enough to reject you. Keep practising and keep getting rejected. As said before, it's the only way to get better


-The Dice

thanks mann, what do you think i did wrong, and would reading the book the game neil strauss help?

To completley get what went wrong, I would have to actually see it.
What I can imagine tho, is that you were displaying nervousness infront of them and that they spotted you on the "this guy is trying to pick us up" radar.

Reading The Game might and might not help you. It would help, by showing you that you are not the only one having these kind of experiences, but not much more than that. Even though I do recommend it for getting an introduction to The Game, so you know what it's all about!

What I suggest you do, is still to keep at it. After a while you will learn to ignore rejections, and when you are no longer afraid of it, you won't be nervous at approaching. You should hit the "General Questions" room, and check out "The Newbie Mission" This will really help you with AA!

Meanwhile, look at it this way, hot girls are used to guys hitting on them, so when someone does it's not a big deal for them, and they won't give it a second thought. In other words, this is more of a big deal for you than for them! Keep that in mind and you will see that rejection is really not a big deal at all! Hope this helps!


- The Dice

Im new here too, but i dont have any problems getting girls

This is the advice i would give

First off good effort on going for it, but you've ALWAYS got to take the positives from it, have a laugh with your mate, my mates call it a "KB" and we are forever taking the piss out of each other for getting KB'd. (which happens to one of us most times we go out). i would also suggest if its your first few times, try in a pub / club, dutch courage never did any harm and definitely makes it easier to just forget and try with the next chick or to keep the banter going. The more you try it the less it hurts when you do get KB'd, eventually it becomes part of the fun.

Also as a conversation starter try and use something slightly relevant so if i was in that situation i would probably try something playing along with the film, eg. if it was harry potter "its crazy i remember watching the first one 8 years ago" theyll probably say "yeah same" or something along those lines and then you say "haha yeah but last time i had better company!" (laugh and punch your mate in the arm) "so you from around here?" and your on your way..

first ever post on this forum and only having a browse because i read the game whilst travelling and i feel like a twat giving advice but hopefully it helps... let me know how you get on,

-ev0l

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