Hi everyone I hope you're all having an awesome day!My name is O'Ryan and I live in Johannesburg,South Africa and is 20 years of age.

I actually got into the game through one of my very good friends (he is no longer in the country but nontheless), I was over at his place chilling one day and he suddenly pipes up "Hey bro, have you ever heard of this book called The Game?" Obviously I said that I have never heard of it. He continued to tell me that the book is like a bible of sorts, it teaches you how to pickup women, what clothes to wear, what to say when, how to sleep with women...everything. Considering my friend was drunk at the time I brushed the thought aside and thought that "thats just the booze talking" and that was that. 1 Week later I was busy surfing on the internet for some Anime pics for my desktop and then out of nowhere, it hit me...The thought of The Game was intriguing. I decided to google "The Game" just out of curiosity and expecting nothing but worthless results. But there it was, The Game - By Neil Strauss. From all there the rest is history.

3years have passed and I'm still a AFC,not because the techniques in the book were not mind blowingly simple but its because I was always too shy and scared to do anything about it for so long, and its just been building up inside me to do the routines and get good with women on a great social level but my AA kept me back. In 3 years I have been on 1 date (no kiss ) and 2 approaches but no escalations to a number or anything further. For this, I feel like I have failed myself and in 3years even though the information has been at my fingertips all this time I have not taken advantage of it and that is why I have not improved, and that is why I'm 20, still single and have not been kissed yet (still a virgin dont know if that plays a factor in anything)

I have recently been caught up in Adam Lyons technique, for some reason his techniques apply to me more easily and I've gotten really interested in applying the type of "Game" he uses on girls, I also feel I can relate to him alot in some ways.

My hobbies and passions are listening to music, chilling, designing, drawing, reading, films, helping people, dancing, training, (video games do not count), and just all round having an awesome time.

My goals in relation to PU are these: I want to kiss a girl for the first time. I want to have more female friends (good looking/hot) and be surrounded by them. I want have more friends in general. I want to go anywhere, be it a club, restaurant, book store, even the street...and have that initial subconscious information that "I can have any girl I want with no fear...", I want to be in a 3some (lost my virginity), And lastly...I want a girlfriend to love and to care for.

I have been alone for a long time and I have seen all my friends have girlfriends (not very good looking ones but still) and atleast go on from there, I have been studying, watching videos, reading books and listening to audio for months and now is the time to put it into action! I have made a decision this weekend to atleast try the methods that AFC Adam has been instructing because I feel my biggest problem is my AA (approach anxiety for those of you who are new) It has always been the Achilles' heel of my transformation and I want to completely annihilate it this weekend. I have decided, that on Saturday morning I will goto a large shopping mall (the place I'm thinking of has loads of girls and alot of potential) and I will approach...50 girls. I will be using a Systematic Desensitation (google it) routine from Adam Lyons to overcome my AA, hopefully this will help me destroy my AA and help me move on to greater things from there and allowing me to no longer be scared of approaching girls I like.

Guys I feel this weekend will play a vital role in where I go from in the future and will show what I am made of and will prove if I have what it takes to change who I am and what I want to achieve. I want more than anything in this world to have a girlfriend but I cant let my fears hold back my dreams. I will push through it all I will post back on the forum either directly afterwards or the next day of my experience no matter the outcome.

Thank you for taking the time to read this it means alot to me.

Keep it real

"Don't even think about it and just do it. If you don't, you'll be regretting it the rest of the weekend.” - Neil Strauss

O'Ryan

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Welcome to the forum, O'Ryan!

Tons of information available here, I've found any of the Sticky posts are pure gold.
and be sure to check out Gambler's videos; the guy's an inspiration

Hi Sarfreer! Yeah I've seen alot of Gamblers techniques he's really good I want to dive into that stuff once I've gotten over my AA and improved alot he's amazing!

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Hey Dude.

Having read your post, I had to comment.

You seem to have a lot of desire to improve your game, although it sounds like your expecting a lot from yourself quickly.

In my opinion, knowledge is only half the battle, I'm sure a lot of guys will back me up when I say, you need the confidence to supplement it.

I found when I was approaching women early in my game, if I went in, hoping to get numbers an k-closes, I put too much pressure on myself, Resulting with AA or horrendous conversations that go nowhere.

To overcome this, I did small things, chatting with store clerks, asking girls about good reads in book shops. Day to day conversations with strangers, just to build the confidence to overcome any anxiety I encountered.

I think similar things would help you overcome some of the AA you encounter.

Have a good weekend dude! approach and learn! Post what happens on this thread?

Gypy Longdong

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Yeah exactly man I agree with you 100%, this weekend I'm not even going to be interested in K-closes, physical escalation, nor anything sexual for that matter. All I want to do is go out there and push myself to attempt to approach these girls (like you said be it even in a shop for that matter) and just have a quick interaction (maybe even for a few seconds) with no expectations of escalating further to expect anything in return, I want to make the interaction brief (quick time constraint) and eject to make it seem I have to be somewhere. I will definitely post my result here either way it goes.

Thanks for the comment!

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Hey everyone.

A couple of days ago I said that I would like to overcome my fear of AA by going to a shopping mall and approach every hot girl I saw by using Systematic Desensitization from an Adam Lyons technique. He said in order to overcome AA you should approach 50 girls by going up to them and asking where something is/telling them something about themselves and then eject after a few seconds after the interaction. I decided to see if I was able to do it, you know, approach 50girls. In short I did actually use the technique was great cause it actually worked the way he said it would I managed to only 2 girls though which was a bit of a let down because I felt like I was expecting too much of myself after my first try (Gypy i think your comment on putting too much pressure on yourself in early days subconsciously helped me realise I put too much pressure on myself for my first day and try so thanks dude i'll remember that )

It wasn't all that bad. The 2 girls I managed to approach were really friendly. The first girl I spoke to, she was an 8 not bad for my first try, she had a european accent so that was kinda sweet ! I asked her where to the nearest coffee shop was, who would have thought!, she kindly pointed me in the direction, I said "Thanks, have a great day!" and left after a few seconds. The next girl I spoke to (using same routine) also happened to be a european/russian/some other, I couldn't really tell she didnt sound local? Anways, she was a bit more attractive than the first girl so I gave her a 9. For me to talk to an 8 or 9 by just using an approach is an accomplishment even for me, I dont often talk/hang around or even have any friends who are 8's or 9's!

The mall itself was BIG, i mean this place must have had like 900 shops or more. I walked around for a couple of hours (I got lost aswell, fail). Speaking of which, I actually arrived at the mall really hungry and I said to myself "I must approach at least one girl before I can eat." I thought I was going to die in there cause I was starving and I knew that if I approached I could eat, so I did and I had a quick snack, I knew if I died of starvation on floor I didnt try and the expedition was for nothing. Thank god for that european girl, I was finally able to eat afterwards!

Anyways guys, I know in my first post I said I wanted to approach 50girls on my first try on my first day, but I realized that even though I am excited about what things lies ahead for me in PU and how it will improve my lifestyle, it is a gradual thing to accomplish and needs to be taken a few steps at a time. Alot of MPUA's in the community say they also took a while to get over their AA so maybe I should also try babysteps first and bring the number down to maybe like 10 in a couple days, another few after that...I dont know, your thoughts on AA and your experiences?

All I know is that is was my own fault for not approaching enough as I wanted, I did at least attempt and I got out there today and got something which was better than nothing.

Thanks guys, I will try again very soon. I will get there!

Keep it real.

O' Ryan

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Hey Dude,

Well done for getting out there and doing it! I'm glad my advice helped you, I'm also pleased that you feel 50 approachs may be a bit too much in the initial stages. I feel 10 a session will be enough to get used to approaching.


Good luck

Gypy

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Yeah dude thanks no problem! I'll go out again and try 10 this time. Most people I know wouldnt even dare trying this type of thing because they dont want to leave their comfort zone. It just shows I'm different than the rest of them

Thanks again man

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Good Hustle, team!

Keep us updated, eh?

Oh yes you can be sure of that

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Hey guys!

This is an update from last week! I went out last week and decided to go and approach some girls at my mall to overcome my AA, nothing fancy, just a quick open and eject routine you know ("Hi, sorry to bother you. Where is the nearest coffee shop?") and thats basically what I am doing now to atleast overcome my AA. Its going good. Last week I managed to approach 2 girls (an 8.5 and an 8 ) not bad for my first try considering I have been out of action for over a year and have not been a very social and outgoing person.

So this week I tried again and did a little better. Went to the same mall but this time I felt a little more confident about opening. I did the same routine as last week on this one girl today (I approached literally after 2 minutes on arrival I was very chuffed with myself ), plus she was an HB9 and I had no problem! She was beautiful! She had perfect ass and body and an awesome tan! I approached, used a bit of kino to transition her to face me and bam!, I did the routine on her and she was very responsive too! The next girl I managed to approach was in a beauty store, only thing was I was just able to manage to hear her voice (she was talking to her friend, plus her hair looked really nice so I decided to go for it). I broke the 3 second rule by about 7 seconds (did my hair quickly, I take care in it haha) So, I go up and approach thinking (sweet i'm going to land another HB9 today) and I turn her around and then she...urghhhh! Not what I was expecting! This girl had beautiful hair, an awesome hot voice, body, ass, everything... but she had the face of a 6.5! I was so disappointed! Nonetheless, I did the same routine on her and ejected after a couple seconds before. Lesson learnt today, I will not judge a girl until I see her face first, is that wrong? Sorry if I seem cruel but the girl took so much pride in everything else it didnt make sense, and she was working in a beauty store which is like a double negative plus a positive?!

Oy vey.

Sorry if i got off topic. Anyway, I really wanted to try and approach 10 girls but due to transport related issues I had to leave early which was really...shit.

I feel as though I am getting better every time and it feels great. Just for info, I am using Adam Lyon's S.D.T (Systematic Desensitation Technique), it basically gives you the intention of going out there and surrounding yourself with things that scare you or make you nervous (in this case, hot girls) and If you approach every hot girl you see, you slowly desensitize yourself and you no longer have a fear over them over time and you gradually improve your approaching technique and eventually it will eliminate AA, the approach doesn't even have to be long, you just open quickly, ask a question or make a statement and leave. It works and Its going well, I should have thought about doing this MONTHS or even YEARS ago!

I want to go out tonight and approach some more girls but I don't know whether I should or shouldn't as I'm still a little nervous and there is SO much stuff I want to try out.

What do you guys do to somehow get over your AA, or if you do still have it are you doing anything to overcome it?

Thanks guys for taking the time to read my post It helps.

Keep it real!

"You may never know what results come from your actions, but if you do nothing there will be no result" - SPAM Ghandi
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Hey O'Ryan, I think your story is really motivating for every GPUA!

AA is one of the hardest things to fend off, and even experienced PUA's feel it when approaching HB9+'s

For instance, what works better for me is not caring for the outcome. That reduces your looks of desperation down to zero and you can simply think of enjoying the moment. I know it sounds far easier than to doing it, but... with all the practice you are getting by yourself it will be a piece of cake.

Keep on having fun !
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Thanks man thats real kind of you to say that much appreciated

AA really is a task in which everyone battles with. You can read all the books, watch all the videos you want until you're blue in the face but until you actually go out there and put what you've learnt into action, nothing will manifest. The only regret I have for now is wishing I should have done this type of thing MONTHS and maybe even years ago! If i did this stuff back then I don't even know what kind of person I would be, but everything happens for a reason and I'm accepting it and improving myself every week and I'm proud of it. It's also a great feeling, going out there and interacting with these type of girls, the type I have been afraid of my whole life and now I am doing it

One thing I forgot to mention in the previous post was that when I was approaching I was listening to my favorite song at full blast in my headset (bluetooth, I got that haha) and just not caring about the outside world. So when I was walking around the mall I was listening to the music (just interest I was listening to "I'm Still Here - Goo Goo Dolls" its a fantastic song give it a listen!), so while I was approaching it was about to hit the chorus I paused the song and took off my headphones, then I approached, interacted, ejected and then right after ejecting I put the headphones back in and pressed PLAY and that song felt so amazing in the combination of Alpha I was feeling because I did it infront of everybody! It made the music felt 10x better and more meaningfull, I will definitely try it again this weekend (Adam Lyons thought of this idea, if you ever read this I just want to say THANK YOU this greatly made me feel more relaxed dude)

Sorry If I digressed I had to put that 2cents in haha.

My 3rd time this weekend, oh yes, you can expect another field report, its going to be worth the read.

"Today is where you're book begins, the rest, is still unwritten"

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