Yes, I joined the community for this. So please help me out my fellow brethren..

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To meet or not to meet that is the question..

just one advice...turn that nice guy into a good guy, a good man.

As being a former Mr. Nice guy, heres the best advice i can give you
Go MIA (Missing in action look it up if you dont know what that means) and figure out who you really are and what you want to become and work on it. Don't be there for every girls need, if she asks you do come over or to go get something for her be assertive and say your busy or you cant. Pretty much a freezeout (look that up if you dont know what it means) and befriend guys that know how to get girls. Once your good pals with a guy the combination of the stuff you learn here and seeing him do stuff will help out a lot. I say freeze out the girls because once you go from "Nice guy" to "Mr. Alpha" and you start talking to her again things will be different.

I've tried some of Roissy's advice but wow I would have had better luck slapping a fifty on the table and saying blow me whore.

Is there a middle ground, like an alpha gentleman?

I consider Hank Moody, James Bond, Rhett Butler and some others an Alpha gentleman.