I have been hanging out with this girl for about a month and doing strong work. I've kiss-closed plenty of times, went out with her plenty of times, but never f-closed because there is a problem ... she has a boyfriend. She has already shown great interest in the whole f-close, but I am not sure if I should do it because of her boyfriend and by doing it might not guarantee she will break up with him and only resent me more. (BTW the way telling a girl you will be the best 8 seconds of her life and that many girls have not been able to last those 8 seconds works! She is always txting me about those 8 seconds and when she will get to see if she can handle it.) This girl tells me how much she wants to be with me and not her bf, but can't find the strength to break it off with her boy. She has been dating him for 3 years, but is unhappy and not in love with him.

So my question is do I f-close and hope she leaves her boy or do I just move on and tell her if she wants those 8 seconds she needs to break up with her boy? She planned on moving in with her boy by June 1st, but is confused and having doubts, so I need to do something impressive by then and not sure if f-close will be enough. Also, could the boyfriend crusher be applied in this situation or am I too far into the game?

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If you want to f-close this girl, then just do it regardless of if she has a boyfriend or not.

That's just my way of thinking though. Others may disagree with me.

What everyone should agree with me on is not going after a relationship with this girl. For whatever reason she's not happy in the relationship she's in, yet she's not woman enough to tell the guy she's not happy and break things off.

With that said, she has a boyfriend and is messing around with you. If she did it to this guy, what makes you think she won't do the same to you.

She's not girlfriend material, so don't make the mistake of investing into this girl.

Thanks for the good advice Thumper

I think that the main question here is: do you want her to break with BF for you? If you didn't want her to be with you then probably Tumper is right.

Due to my lack of experience with taken girls I might not be in the position of confirming this, but I can tell you what happened to me in similar situation when I went for option two.

I wanted a girl to be with me, I f-closed, she broke with BF telling him that she cheated on him hence they cannot be together anymore. She also had doubts about him, sleeping with me probably was just a good excuse for her to leave him. Guy got mad, threatened me – he was taller than me by two heads at least, easily could beat me up to pulp but fortunatelly she told him I was into some judo stuff so he also wrote that he is only “considering beating me up” (what he didn’t know was that I really sucked at judo).

Anyway... We moved together and after ten months she left me for a pretentious fire poi street performer.

Hope that my story is any help

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ever tried, ever failed, no matter, try again, fail again, fail better.

Last night was my chance to f-close or walk away from the situation. I chose to walk away. In the end if I f-closed the situation, what do I get? another girl to chalk up on the board that I f-closed. Not worth chalking her up there on the board. The advice given to me was greatly appreciated and I will gladly share this advice with anyone I know who is in a situation like this.

So it's on to the next one....

After reading your thread my initial reactions were the same as Thumper's: that I would not hesitate to F close her, but also that you would never be able to trust her. I seriously would have just F closed her if I were you but that you walked away shows some level of honor.