Hi guys.
As you can see I'm chick_magnet92
I'm new to pickup stuff. I'm 18 ,have some skills ,but I want to improve so badly because I'm not really satisfied with my success in life.Although I don't do some stuff as I want to (like I like to get more kissing and sex,but not trying to get it) ,i try being possitive all the time ,in a good mood and setting a good vibe with people.
Another thing I noticed about myself is that I don't have real friends... I find it hard to believe but I think it's true.. if I don't call people they're not going to call me and say "Hey wassup lets go to disco ,or party,or to the mall." I'm always the one reacting ,and this I think made me more beta male ... I hate being beta. I think of myself as the prince of England ,some billionaire with a lambo, although I have nothing from this ..
Latest I try acting like alpha male ,keeping my posture ,eye contact, control my voice ,breath through the stomach,being relaxed ... this is in my head right now.

My social life just started. Last summer I was a promoter on a resort and got to talk with everybody which passes by in which I had no problem .. tried to step up my game ,got in contact with few amazingly good looking russian chicks in the discos. Kissed a lot (actually my first real kissing experience, I felt like I was a master of it ,like it's in my blood or something, I feel things and how they work. The girls said so ,too and I could see it in their eyes.
About sex: It was with one of my 'friends' bitch girlfriend. He liked her only for the sex and wanted me to get sex too, introduced her to me and she liked me ,she was bitch though which has a lot of sexual experience.We made a threasome it was pretty good.She said I was amazingly good ,and couldn't recognize me as a boy who is having sex for the first time. Afterwards he stopped seeing her and she wanted more from me,so I had sex with her 2 more times.My only sex experience was with that girl (few months ago)
As for girls ,they seem to love me but I'm kinda not making my move.
I'm having a lot of fun and girls just PM me and add me as friends in facebook and stuff, it's just that I'm not taking any actions.I will take actions and post the result here later.
So here comes the important part.
About a 'year and few months ago' I got into latino dancing such as salsa ,cha cha , bachata (lessons)... you probably heard of that. I freaking like it though.It's not gay as some people think and it's an area which has a lot ot available sexy girls and guys are cut.. they're few cool guys (like me). I started to get a lot more interest from girls.

So there is this girl ,let's call her Mary.
I've known her for a year ,she's in my dancing classes and we've been seeing each other only at the classes and social parties ,not dated or something. We have more like friends comfort frame. Few weeks ago I started having some interest to her, I still can't figure out why is she so attractive to me ,but you know "sometime nothing interest you if you don't have what you want". I want to kiss that girl and get intimate with her! That's my only goal now ,a goal which has real potential to be blown off ,but I don't think for the bad result , I expect a good one!
I think of her when I go to sleep ,as far as I (the PUA master) know I'm really into her ,pretty much.
We feel comfortable physically touching arms shoulders ,back , neck ,hair,face .. haven't touched her ass and boobs ,at least not with my arms but with my body yeah. If you know the dance bachata it's pretty intimate dancing where your tummy's touch and she's following your moves and you have your right leg completely between her legs. Dancing with girls is nice.
Some things to mention:
1. she has a boyfriend ,which is not so good btw, and I think ,she's searching for a better one.
2. She's 21 (3 years older than me)
3. She probably thinks I'm the good friend and I may be in the friends zone. (such a challenge to escape from HELL ,isn't it?)

Situation:
We're in the club the other day and here comes this guy and she dances with him. Lately she said that he has a very good lead/dances very good. (He demonstrated good dancing skills ,better than mine). He comes at a 'song that she hates time' and she rejects dancing with him, although he continues dancing alone next to her. And I went to her and moved her to my chair, got her sitting on my knees wrapped her around with my arms (She's totally comfortable with that) . After some time she went dancing with that guy again ,when I was away.
And said to me "He asked me if you're my boyfriend... (smile)?"
ME "you should have told him that i was."
HER "That would have been a lie."
ME" Then you should have told him that you want to be my gf"
HER" (smile) nooo"
ME" Is that it? (I got that disappointed look,she felt it)"
HER" But you are my friend (said as .. a normal friend .. and she made that cute face)"
At some point I saw them enjoying a lovely conversation then i got that feeling to ruin it and got up to her , interrupted their talk and ended dancing with her. (She got that look like 'when electricity goes down when you play the Playstation', you know like you instantly got bored, she was trying to hide that look but couldn't)
After some time she sit in me again and I told her that this guy likes her pretty much ,it was so obvious (he was acting pretty alpha though ,like the cool guy who get's what he wants) and asked her " Do you like him" , She said "No" and moved her eyebrow up. When I was away talking to some girls I saw her dancing with the guy again and she was enjoying it pretty much. Next thing I saw was these two exchanging numbers.
Which really pissed me off ,but I acted like I didn't care I hided all my emotions and acted cool for the rest of the night like nothing happened. If she was my gf I would have killed that guy but she's not I can't help it.
At the end of the night when our group was leaving this same guy passed by me ,tapped me on the shoulder and got a smile and a "I win,man" look on his face. I felt like a looser ..like seriously.

It's pretty hard to control your emotions... inside you feel pissed off and got mad but you must appear relaxed and not caring. That was my aim for that night. I wanted to appear not caring but who knows ... I was afraid that if she sees me getting jealous or needy (*OR to do something which will give her to much IOI from my side and lower my value) ,she'll try to push it so I say something stupid and she rejects me.
I got a headache from all the stuff that flows in my head.. so I'm gonna stop.
I hope you got a good first impression, I like this site and I see that thousands of people visit it so it may be good to have some advice and critics. I take critics and learn from them. Feel free to write to me. This story went waaaay to long. I spend like 2 hours writing this and it's almost 2 AM now...
This got me thinking about me to step up my game and I will.

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dasdads

Hello and welcome
First, dancing is great and it will really improve your chances with girls. Every girl loves a good dancer, especially when it comes to latin dances. I love bachata, it's a really sexy dance
Now, about this girl. I'm afraid I have to say things you don't want to hear, but you're totally in the friend zone. All those conversation transcripts and her behavior with the other guy just scream friend zone, I'm sorry. Besides, she has a boyfriend, he may be an asshole, but she's still with him. You just have to realize there is no way out right now and let it go. Have her as a friend, someone you can ask for advice and someone to help you get other girls. Just realize you're chances with her are so slim, frankly non existent, so it's not worth the effort and let her go. This may be what you don't want to hear, but it's the best thing to do.
In any case, the best thing to do is just game other girls, get some more experience and enjoy yourself. This is also your best shot at getting with "Mary" some day. You will gain more confidence and she may see you in a more sexual way when she actually sees you with another girl. So you can still flirt with Mary and all, just don't expect anything because it's likely it won't happen and you'll get hurt. Resolve this issue with yourself, really decide to let it go. I hope this helped, good luck!

Thank you for the advice. I appreciate it.
I'm going to try it out. I should just let it go, right ,it's not worth the effort. She'll be perfect for practice.

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dasdads

I really kind of don't necessarily agree with the idea that the "friend zone" is something you can't get out of. I think if they'll let you talk to them, you can get them to go out. If they go out, they will usually let you touch them. If you can touch them you can get them in the sack.

Sometimes it's just not worth bothering with though. I have a friend who isn't attracted to me at all, nor I her anymore (after years of back and forth).

Frankly she's just not worth the goddamn problems.

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When in Doubt, Freeze Her Out.

I don't think friend zone can't be escaped, it can. But it usually takes a great deal of time to pass (at least a year or two) and then when you meet the girl again, she can see you in new light. I don't see this happening here, because they attend same dance classes. It's always good if she can see you with other girls because she can see your sexual side as well and perceive you as a wanted male. That's why my advice was to game other women and keep flirting with her while letting go of any expectations with this girl.

I'll say one thing-- most people who get in there in the first place will have a difficult time getting out.

It always seemed to me that it's important to be sort of aggressive, and the ones who don't get off on it, don't bother with. Populate your life with women who are attracted to you, or you will by definition have a life filled with women who just want to be friends. They will accumulate and take up more and more of your time.

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When in Doubt, Freeze Her Out.

Here is another interesting story in my life, pretty amazing:
I worked as a promoter last summer at a resort and after work I got that awesome feeling I was exited about something and I started acting like I don't care of anything. At the time I got my hair done really nice like an emo kid. Got cool leather bracelet on my hair and a necklace on my neck.

When I was going to the stairs to the disco (I work for) I saw that awesome russian chick's ass and first thing that pop in my head was to grab it ,so I did grab it with my hand pretty hard (like I did own it ) and went in the disco (singing a song,like I was high or something). Next thing I see is that chick coming and hitting me , so I grabbed her ass again and started dancing , she was playful but still aggressive(like my dancing instructor says "aggressions is good,it builds chemistry!") trying to kick me and I was defending and dancing ... like I was drunk ,but I was just in extremely good mood (acted like nothing can destroy my happiness). Then I started dancing with this girl. For a moment ignored her and went to get a drink.

Later I saw her dancing on the tables ,went to her and gave her signal to go down to the floor and come to me. She did and I asked her "Do you want to kiss me?" ,those were the first words I said to her. She replied "I don't know.." and I said "Don't be shy? Try it." And she did make her move. The girls (my colleagues saw it all and got that "Damn he's good" look on their faces trying to hide it with a not caring one.

We did make out for few minutes in the disco ,then I bounced her to a silent location ,to a sunbed near a hotel pool, it was pretty romantic ,cricketс were singing . It was silent and there was nobody, 3AM in the morning (Error starts here) I did try to make her want sex and told her "Let's have sex" ,she said "Noooo" with a sexy voice ,then I asked why and she said "Because I say so" .. (explanation???)

I did ask her once again ,same dialogue. She enjoyed me touching her ass ,also I got my hands in her panties and touched her ass. She didn't allow me to touch her pussy or boobs but I did and got my lip bitten ,I tried again, same result.When I got my hand on her boobs below the t-shirt she scratched the skin on my back which btw really hurts.. I still don't know but she did enjoy kissing me like she got addicted kissing me,but I wanted more.
I gave her my silver bracelet and said to her that it's precious to me and she'll return it to me the next time i see her. Told her to be at the disco at a exact time.
Next night she was there waiting for me.We did go the beach enjoyed physical contact ,but no sex. (I was still a virgin at the time,got condoms in my pockets and was hungry for sex)
It was an awesome experience thought and I have no regrets.
I found out that you being in your own world ,acting high and not caring ,having fun and helping others have fun will get you results.

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dasdads

Sorry, I didn't read your huge paragraph, make it readable next time haha! But yeah, don't waste time with 'friend zone' females. And make sure you stay the fuck out of the 'friend zone' next time you meet a girl you would like to have passionate sex with...