| Hi guys,
Last night I had one of those life altering moments which has made me realise i need to change ALOT about myself.
I would describe myself as a reasonably confident person in general, however around average - hot women i completely freeze up, its far from as bad as it used to be but i just dont 'game' at all. I have also recently discovered that i have a huge need for validation.
Anyways, last night i was out with some work mates and from the word go, i was getting AMOG'd by two dwarves! Two salesmen, neither of whom were more than 5'6" at the most, were just letting rip into me, in our group, leaving the girls to say stuff like "aww dont be so hard on him". They dominated the group and i was left sat inbetween them looking like a chump.
Anyways, as the night went on, and we went to more places, this continued and it was only that they were now focusing more on the women in the group themselves, that the focus on me went away.
This was a bad enough evening for me as it was, but by about 1.30am one guy had gone off with one of the girls, leaving just myself and this other AMOG with the last girl. I wasnt interested in this girl, she was very drunk, and the AMOG was too.
The the 'moment' happened.
A guy swooped into our little dancing group, straight up to me and the other guy, ignored the girl, and start doing a stupid dance. He then focussed on the girl who, in response, mirrored his stupid dancing. In minutes he had her play fighting with him and was doing lots of kino, another few minutes and he had extracted her from our group and they were kissing.
This guy was obviously a PUA, he was going through the same classic checklist i, and thousand others, have read. He wasnt good looking, he was drunk, but he still bowled in, and within minutes was kissing this girl from our group.
Now admittedly, i was not having a great night, because of the events earlier in the night, and I wasnt at all interested in this girl (she would probably rate about a 6). But there were many other girls in this club and the bars we'd been into before and i hadnt made one move on any of them. Even those who had given me obvious IOI's i (and were hot) i had not done anything about.
I'm 28, i'm single (after being dumped from a 2 year relationship about 6 months ago), i'm living in a new city (i moved here for my ex, before we broke up) so i know very few people, and i'm sick and tired of feeling like some kind of charity case. A good few times the girls at work have said "we need to find you a nice girl" and other such things.
Long post but, the penny has finally dropped. I just dont know if i have the balls to make these changes. Especially as i would be doing it alone, not knowing many people here in Bristol, UK and those guys that i do know are married and not up for nights out that often.
Help!
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