Hello guys.

I am new here. Am a Uni student - have done a lot of solo travel and am very confident in a lot of intellectual situations, including public speaking etc, but not so much with women. Can make friends, but rarely if ever become sexual. Guess you could call me the typical "Geek" - on the debate team, do web design in my spare time etc - have had very limited success with the fair sex.

I have been doing a lot of reading and video watching in the seduction world, and am finding this stuff fascinating. Have gone through "The Blue Print Decoded" and am working my way through some David DeAngelo stuff.

The "inner game" is fascinating, but it's not really bringing many any results in the real world. Maybe I just need to stick with it until I find clarity... or maybe techniques are the answer? The trouble is whenever I find myself planning to use a mystery method style routine, I either a) can't think of it in the moment (even though I have 10 million in my head), or b) - I hit the classic problem...:

It's just not me.

I am a quiet, thoughtful type of person. In certain contexts I can be talkative, but all these PUA style games and routines just seem too cheesy, I doubt I'd be able to pull them off congruently.

I guess practice may be the solution, and allow the pieces to fall into place, and I', sure that the more I hang out with you guys, the more the puzzle will assemble itself.

I am living in a "hall" kind of like a Frat with both guys and gals. Great for social practice, only trouble is gossip travels fast, so I'm afraid of taking social risks and failing, lest it ruin my social life for the next 2 years.

Anyway, that's my "life story" - my gratitude and sympathies if you are still reading!

I look forward to getting to know many of you in the days and weeks to come.
Best,
Lanksy

A cheat sheet is a fine way to begin. If you can't think of things on the spot, then plan ahead.

You can use gossip to remove the geek tag in one night if you do something radical and preferably sober. That gossip can also carry that you're good with women and treat them with respect, that's half of your game run before you talk to anybody...

There's nothing cheesy about having sex, but there are more natural approaches if you would prefer.

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I'm a winner - I am going to win.

The whole "its not me thing" is something i struggled with at first, when i changed my appreance and how i acted around women. Our behaviour is defined by our emotional responses to situations. When we are uncomfortable we may be quiet and reserved. But say for example your debating an issue you feel very strongly about you are gonna speak with passion and enthusiasm. Seeing as most of the way we communicate is not from words it is more about how we say it. And if u debated the way you were around women, you would never win, even if ur point was more solid.

So as you gain confidence and passion around women the way you talk to them will change, and the way they react to you will increase ur passion and confidence. Unfortunately these are all connected. And your here to make changes to yourself, so you must take the first step.

Were not asking you to change your core values, just the whole "it isnt me" concept has to be accepted as that behaviour in situations is unique to ur emotional response to the given situation. This changes as u age and as other things in your life happen.

I like to think of my behaviour as fluid, as i learn more and gain confidence it is forever changing and never set. My friends tell me on a regular basis im not the same person they knew even 3 months ago. And that it isnt a bad thing, but a very good thing.

Truely believe you can do it and that belief will be passed on to others.