Ok so I finally decided that I am getting sick of being so shy. I am one of the quietest people you will ever meet and I always hold back from everything. I hate being like this so much and I can not seem to overcome it, I need help. At home I would say that I am myself and talkative but in school I just hold back from everyone. I just sit there while everyone else is laughing and having fun. The worst part that actually made me feel terrible about myself is that I have been dumped in the past 8 days. Thursday I got a girl’s number that was pretty much throwing herself at me. We talked for 2 days and we dated for 3 additional days. Then suddenly she had feelings for an ex? Next girl I got a friend of hers to give me her number on Friday right after the other girl. We talked for 3 days as just friends because of the other girl. So when the first one dumped me I started to get in a relationship with the second girl. But then before you know it she has too much going on in her life and nothing is going right? So that is 2 girls in 8 days and they were both very cute and came on to me. It has to be me. It is not them, I think it is because I hold back too much and they just lost interest in me. I know the first girl lost interest for sure because it was on Facebook the next day. So I desperately need help because I do not know what to do.

PLEASE HELP ME

Well nevermind.... Guess i'll figure something out on my own huh?

Hey @Aaron9226, I feel same as you do man, I just have that block in my head that just stops me from acting in manner I want to act. It is most frustrating thing, and I sometimes think nothing can help me. It annoys especially in pick-up. I just don't have the balls to talk to unknown girls. It's not that I am afraid of rejection or something, I can't even say something as simple as:"Hi!". And about the girlfriends problem, I am also unreactive... Once a girl came to me and danced, tried to pick me up, and she was all over me, and I couldn't do anything, I frose, I just let that gorgeous girl pass by me. Damn, it is utterly frustrating. So, we are deffinetly on the same page. Have you tried any of those NLP products? If you have, I would like to hear if it works... Cheers

No i have not ever tried any products as of two days i just pretty much said "today im dropping all of the bullshit" i said whatever i felt and did whtever i want. I think that it has helped me a lot and now i am begging to be more active and contributing to people around me. I was never really shy but rather at a loss for whats as of what to say. I can talk to anyone but i'm just not great at carrying on a conversation. But sorry man i aint tried any products or i would let you know if they worked.

guys, i am new to pua too, but i think you should start with something really simple. DONT use hard routines, dont think about what to say, just say it. You should get bigger confidence first, and make more friends, play a social game. There is something you should know. Everyone have an inner monitor which control every your action. Sometimes, it feels like everyone is watching you, and feels like ,,if you wont be the best, you will be the worst,,. TURN THIS MONITOR OFF!!! write some pozitive statements about yourself on a sheet of a paper, and train yourself every day. just start saying ,,Hi,, to random girls. Everyone was beginner once.

Yea thats pretty much what i have been doing. I am still in high school so i've been trying to just to be really friendly and build friendships with people and i can already feel my confidence building each day.

Guys guys guuuuys. Listen, building "friendship" and "social whatever the fuck" will work. Yes? Yes. However, in this game we play so freely these things are not the goal. The goal is to get a girl. To MAKE HERRRR chase YOU. To make HERRRRR feel that she cannot go without YOU. Friendship and social networking is fine and dandy but it is clear that the younger generation (ya'll) has problems with confidence. Here is a secret. Confidence is an illusion. It's not real. Or, shall I say, it's only as real as one makes it. Make it your reality. Some men get confidence from their positions in life (work, cars, wife, money...etc) WHATEVER! It doesn't mean shit. Our confidence and the real source of The Game comes from inside. Its EVOLUTION baby. Can't stop that. Men with power and money and flash DEPEND on those things. What happens when you take away their power and money? They will be reduced to A.F.C's. We, PUAs, will always be here. Try to internalize the Game. Read it. Study it. Become it. Internalize. The things that the MPUAs teach is solid gold BUT you must have the intelligence to warp it and shape it into something that fits into your own life. The MPUAs are gods. Why? Becuase they have made this Game a part of themselves. They have internalized it. So, young ones, take PRIDE in these teachings. Take PRIDE in the FACT that YOU are ALL part of something that should not be spoken of. Take PRIDE and take COMFORT in the fact that YOU ALL are taking part in something that has gone on since the beginning of the caveman era! Hold your heads up and keep learning. Soon you all will be able to pull planets out of orbit.

DO IT!

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It sounds like you need to work on some inner game. If you want to know step by step how to run game, then you should read something like the mystery method, but that doesn't talk much about your problem. Doing pick up can build the inner game but I would recommend working specifically on that. I know the Blueprint Decoded goes into a deep level identity change that would be helpful but I think one of the best things that's helped me is telling myself "I don't give a fuck what anyone thinks of me". If you find yourself factoring other peoples opinions into your thoughts when you act, then you need to cut that shit out. Also DO NOT BE AFRAID TO BE THE ONE PEOPLE ARE OBSERVING. In order to build any confidence, you're gonna need to be in situations where you are the center of attention.

How to fix shyness?

Go out and talk to 50 girls. then talk to another 50 and another 50 and another 50.

Eventually you will get to the point where they don't matter.

I used to be in your shoes-- now I don't talk to them because they don't seem like they are worth the bother, 99% of them annoy the fuck out of me.

If you don't like talking to girls anymore, then you should probably stop coming to pick up forums and giving advice.

Same problem here , these mental barriers .... , but I`m working on it HARDCORE , I`ll post a report very soon