Hey PUA collective,

I've had an off and on relationship, and a month ago we re-ignited for like the fourth time and agreed to enjoy sex and have fun. Nothing too emotional. Five weeks later, still sexual and fun, but we've ended up spending time in a more enjoying the companionship way and emotional way.

During this time, she began to tell a story of her best friend who lives a few hours car ride away. Her best friend (Sarah) had been spending time in inappropriate ways with a particular guy (Bradley). This woman has a boyfriend (Scott). Bradley is also best friends with Scott. And Scott is away on vacation. This guy Bradley was in situations where Sarah would drink with him. In getting drunk walls get blurred. Bradley had sent Sarah a pic in her email of "a big dick". Sarah had been telling my woman (Erica) that she should hook up with this guy. Erica told me he had called to ask her out but she declined and said she was disappointed in his behavior especially someone who sends pics. Yet she became friends with him on Facebook.

ok, so i'm listening to this story in pieces and then the woman I am dating who is telling this story says on another occasion recently that this guy Bradley had called her. I was like, that guy has your number too??? She casually threw me a line about he had called because she had "de-friended" him on Facebook. Sad but I looked up from deduction who this guy was on Facebook and this guy having an open page I could see his friends list which of course had Erica there. So Erica threw me a white lie for whatever reason. She mentioned right before this piece of info that she was traveling to the city where her best friend Sarah lives (which is also where Bradley lives).

So, Erica and I agreed from the get go to enjoy sex and have fun but that we also agreed that we would only sleep with each other, and I'm pretty honest about that.
Being physical is the one boundary I don't want sharing with some other dude.
But seeing she told me she was going to this city, then a couple moments later started talking about this guy Bradley, and then told a white lie about why he had called. Any thoughts? Would you think that Erica and Bradley are going to meet up when she visits that city where erica's best friend Sarah lives? Or am i way over reacting?

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to clarify, yes he had her number from the get go, but when he is still calling weeks later and she's accepting them then that's where its an inappropriate situation for me

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IMO, if shes ok with having a relationship based around sex-only with you, then she would probably have that type of relationship with someone else and feel justified...Kinda odd to have a sex only relationship and put parameters on it.

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This

You can't be seeing other girls while not allowing her to see other guys. Thats unfair and manipulative.

If you are gonna see other girls, she should be able to see other guys. Period.

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i'm not seeing other girls, and i expected it to be understood to be the same, with a verbal agreement times over that we are only having sex with each other.

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