hey guys

first off i'd like to admit that I am a bit embarassed to be on this site but its comforting knowing that most of the people here started at my state and worked their way to an "alpha" state.

I broke up with my highschool sweetheart in february 2010. After all was said and done I looked in the mirror and realized that i was borderline obese, only had a small group of guy friends who ALL had barely any experience with women (some having none), never went to a club or bar, and didnt know how to really interact with others.

IMO i was the deffinition of anti-social. i used to always smoke weed and i couldnt think fast enough, when people talked to me, to respond with things that were interesting. when i was sober i'd rather think to myself than to socialize and i ended up awkwardly laughing off other peoples attempts at talking to me.

Once i came to the realization of all this i realized that things had to change. i started losing weight and putting more effort into my clothes (i dressed like a slob before), i also FORCED myself to talk to everyone interesting in my 1st year class. Luckily they took a liking to me, however, i still have some deep insecurity issues that i cant brush away from my head.

the reason i joined this site was to be able to re-create that moment where i forced myself to talk to people, all the time. TBH i'm not out there just for sex btu i am used to having very beautiful girlfriends (i dont know how i landed them in highschool in my 5'6" 210 lb mid-puberty state) and my goal is to land a girlfriend that is a) obsessed with me b) gives me bragging rights.

I've never had a problem romancing girls once theyre with me. I usually take the nice guy approach but it's always worked. the problem i do have is gathering confidence. Everytime i see a cute girl i panic and try to think of something slick but usually i'll convince myself no to say anything to avoid embarassment.

this lack of confidence is whats holding me back from completeing the newbie test. so as my first question, i ask, how do i become more courageous (without finding the wizard of OZ)?

Start small. Blow a bunch of sets on purpose. Say stupid shit and get rejected until you realize that rejection isn't really that bad. Practice this in a place outside of your normal surroundings.

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well i was looking for oppinions on this earlier....

i recently went to a club. it was a big event so i thought "theres gotta be some friendly girls here"

unfortunately i was wrong. i kept score it was 40 rejects to around 5-6 accepts. i stupidly didnt edit my approach those 5-6 girls were probably under the influence. my approach was to walk up to girls that were dancing and go "hey youre cute dance with me" or just start dancing close to them. girls that were alone or not dancing i'd go "you look like youre having a horrible time. youre too cute to be pouting come dance with me"

after i sobered up from that night i realized how flaw'ed my approach was. next time i'm going to approach in this style. i'll obviously change my approach in accordance to the situation

girl not dancing.
"wheres all your friends? oh did they ditch you cuz you suck at dancing? i'd dance with you but i dont know if you can keep up with my skills!"

girl dancing either in a group or alone
shove myself into the group or infront of the girl
lean in and ask for a danceoff
do some stupid dance
ask the girl to teach me her dance skills

good so fear of rejection = 0. thats a big one.

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You can't forget about me, stupid. Everywhere I go ima have my own theme music.

khub bhalo..chaliye ja.. prothome kichhu din bhoi korbe tar por sob normal hoi jabe..chaap nis na! r ta chhara sob may kei je pete hobe tar to kono mane nei.. your strike rate is good enough. btw. kolkata theke naki?

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Hi,

Welcome to PUA forum!

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