Hey everyone...
I'm new to this but I'll get to the point. I need some community help with my current situation. I dated a girl for a year that I have known since high school which makes about 12 years. As of late, we are not together due to the fact that I'm not in the same city she lives in. She lives in NYC and I live in upstate NY. My current occupation as a Military Officer about to deploy to Afghanistan doesn't allow me to be with her. The problem is, that we have never lived in the same city. It worked fine for a year of visiting each other as much as possible. All the pillow talk and physical attraction that went into it is gone. I know that this is typical get over it move on stuff but, I can't get her out of my head. The way we left it was her not answering my phone calls for a weekend which was unusual and then all of a sudden, bam...she brought another guy home. I haven't talked to her in a solid month. The best I got from her was a drunk text the following weekend and an email saying I will always be there for you. As of late, I sent her an email from this funny website and a text saying I thought you might like this article. I havent' gotten any response. I need to know if I was wrong to try to be nice and break the ice with her, or am I simply the fool who is trying to make something out of nothing. I need all the help I can get to get this girl out of my head.

Welcome sir. its always good to see more military in here. by the name imma guess air force. in my opinion its time to move on. im currently deployed and from experience pulling the "hey ladies im about to go to war" card works AMAZINGLY. go out and use it and you will meet plenty of girls wanting to "show their patriotism". drop it like its no big deal and its good to have a wing to help you drop it. seriously with that and a little game you will get laid a lot. drop by the chat room in here some time.

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Heres to our children, may their fathers be rich and their mother be beautiful

Hey I appreciate it man. I been feeling real shitty lately. I know that it's not her it's just the void of the girl missing part. I love Top Gun, but I am in the ARMY. Besides that, i appreciate all the help I can get right now. I just feel like I am 27 and am tired of running the game, then ultimately trying to settle down and it blows up in my face. I feel like this day an age, too many people are afraid of commitment. The world is teaching me to act that way as well. So I'm hooked to this forum now and will be posting furiously. Just need a little pick me up from the community every now and then. Thanks again for the response.

getting ready to deploy sucks sir. its normal to go through this shit. u active or reserves/ng?

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Heres to our children, may their fathers be rich and their mother be beautiful

I'm active. Getting ready to head out in a month to afghanistan near the arghandob river valley. It just sucks because I feel like I should do something, but i can't even do that because I'm leaving and pretty much know I am already forgotten. I can't trust women. And this one, i just want the satisfaction of seeing her again and her knowing she fucked up. I dunno...empty wishes i guess.

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This too shall pass

First off, I'm Canadian but I respect the service you provide to your country and indirectly mine as well so I thank you.

Secondly, if you are able to endure all this training and emotional as well as physical warfare with regards to the army I'm sure you can withstand a little heartbreak.

Cut her out of your life completely. It's the only thing that will work. You'll still think about her from time to time, but eventually it will go away. Just remember what she did to you. You deserve somebody better than that.