Hey everyone! I'm just going to tell you the situation I'm in, what I've done so far, and what I've learned since. Hopefully I can get some good feedback.

My girlfriend has been acting more and more distant lately. She kept saying it feels like things have changed and what-not. I approached her to get to the bottom of why she's been acting that way. We only see each other about twice a week, but she thinks we are spending too much time together.

I asked if she wanted to break up and she said no. I said we should take some time apart. She said that we didn't have to stop talking all together, but I flipped it around. I told her I need some time to think about things and figure out what I really want. The next day she asked what my schedule was this week. I said I'm working Sunday, so you can get anything of hers from my house you might need while I'm at work. She said she wanted to know my schedule so we could talk about things. I told her I wasn't really in the mood to talk and we decided to take a break, so for her to let me take it.

That was 2 days ago. I have not called or texted her or anything. Since then I found out that she has been thinking about this for a few weeks. An old boyfriend that lives 2 states away has been texting her recently. I think having him to fall back on gave her what she needed to make a move. She also was thinking about visiting him. I also saw a message where she told him she had been thinking about him and misses him. Her plan was to be distant and bitchy to me & thought I would break up with her. I guess that would make her not feel as guilty about going to see him.

She has no idea that I know what her plan was or that I know about her ex or any of the messages. I'm trying to figure out what to do now. I DO want to be with her and would hate for it to end. What should I do going forward? I will be out of town next week anyways, so I was planning on not seeing her in person until I get back in 2 weeks. I don't think her ex-boyfriend matters, because it's really about what's going on with our relationship that started that one up. I'm only going to use that info if I decide to break up with her, so I have a solid reason of her going behind my back to see him being her mistake.

I would love some good feedback. I think I've played this out pretty well so far. How long should I wait to text her if I don't hear from her? Thanks in advance!!!!