hey all, im blueberryyumyum and Im new here so go easy on me iight.
Theres this girl that im interested in... she always reaches my friend's crib n chills there, burns piff n we talk.... play games n wutnot. when she first met me, she was into me n she had a bf tht she just recently broke up with. i didn't wanna be a jerk n get in between things so i didn't really game her. well i did but not really lol. anyways as i said in the beginning she was feelin me n we use to sit close to eachother n we connected a few times, touched her hand n brushed her leg. at one point we were under blankets together n i put my arm around her... a few seconds later she just got up n moved to the other side of the bed. i was disappointed kinda... i unno wut to think about that... ever since that night shes started to become more n more distant. she wouldn't be sitting right next to me at times, n she wasn't all over me like in the beginning. for some reason i feel like i fell in the friend zone wit this one. a week ago after walkin her to the busstop, waitin for the bus, i told her to give me her hand as in to hold it, she said 'i've had bad bad experiences with that.' i laughed slightly, n i asked her if its cuz she didn't trust me or something, she said 'no, its that i had bad experiences wit that'. i wuz kinda lost, i didn't know wut to say. i paused for a minute, took a deep breath n i straight up told her that i like her, n i wanted her to be my girl (crap timing). bus just got there n she looked at me for a few seconds n then turned around n hopped on da bus. i texted her that same night n i said 'if u'd 've let me hold ur hand...." . she texted me back the next morning sayin that shes sorry but that she loves her ex. i then texted her that its iight. its been about a week and i've seen her a few times at my friend's but she never really shows much interest in me anymore, although i do catch a few glances from her n a few smiles but thts about it. i feel like im in da friend zone with her, and i don't know how exactly to approach this pray.

Welcome to the forum man. Theres some really good guys and a few girls in here that have great advice if your willing to learn. You should stop by the chat some time and visit with us. Hers my 2 cents as far as the girl goes: Its lost man. Now you have to play damage control, you've destroyed what little comfort you had. Damage control can be done but its no fun and it takes time (or booze) and I really haven't seen to many people talk about it. I think most people would agree with me when I say this, learn from your mistakes and move on.

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hmm, so where did i screw up and why is it lost? Is it completely hopeless now that I 'lost' the opportunity?

Ok you didn't capitalize when you had the chance early on in your "relationship" with this girl. the minute you met this girl you should have been looking to escalate. I'm not really sure how old you are but loosely judging by your name I would assume 15-18. kino (escalating your physical contact) is important and should be done tactfully at this age. You told her how you feel about her which is one of the biggest AFC moves you can make. This being said direct game (not pussy footing around and going directly for the close) is a great method but it must be done early on in an encounter with a female to be effective. You let it enter the friend zone by not moving to the next level and making your intentions apparent in the beginning, this is where you went wrong. I said in my first post that its not completely hopeless but its much easier to move on to the next one and not deal with the damage control.

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Hey man, kinda skimmed through what you put, but trust me a seen enough.

First bit of advice would be to, in future, use game to your full advantage when you first meet a girl. Sexual escalate if possible etc. Leave her wanting more and so on.

If you need more help on the initial approach and convo etc just use this forum or more specifically, look at some adam lyons and gambler material. It's all you need.

To go back to the girl in question, STOP chashing her and being to needy, attatched an desperate. Well that is how she probably see's it anway!

Again, research pua game for help on getting her chasing you and being attracted to you. A good one would be to talk to other girls in front of her, as long as they look like they are talking back etc

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