I'm in my late 20s, and am currently looking to up my game, namely by working on conifdence. I used to get girls asking me out, hitting on me at parties, etc. and I'd still fail because I was too timid to act on the signs. For instance I held hands with this really drop dead gorgeous girl on a porch at a house party, knowing full well she wanted to kiss (still i asked myself "does she want me?") That was before I lost my virginity, which I lost to a really hot girl, that I clung on to as a rebound guy for 4 years out of fear, out of insecurity, out of a sense of familiarity. I slept with a couple other girls during that time, too, but it wasn't anything senstational - it wasn't really anyone I wanted physically, just only in a general "yeah, I find you to be mentally attractive" kind of way. I don't want that anyway, I want the whole package now.

I've also been on numerous dates in the past year, where I'd quite frankly drop the ball in some ridiculous way. Such as at the end of one date where we agreed to meet at an art gallery, so we both arrived independently, insisted on walking me to my car. I paniced, because I had left my floorboard laden with some fast food garbage. I knew the RIGHT thing to do would have been insist back that I drive her to her car, and just roll with how dirty my car was. But I paniced, just shook her hand, and literally ran away, jumping in to my car, driving off. Over some McD's. Pfft. I make sure to keep a clean house now by the way.

From the get go though, since I was a teenager, I realized the need to work on yourself, to work on your career. I became too introverted however, which is easy to do when your career is a discipline of solitude (artist/writer), I found that I had a mountain of technical skill and know how, and had much of my emphasis in life on my career (which is good, and girls do dig that) but i had just let my social skills go to the garbage dump.

So I'm just here today to hopefully pick up some ideas, and improve upon my game. I refuse now to settle for the "friend zone", the "rebound", or "average". I know what I want, and now I'm just here to help aid myself in getting that extra boost of confidence to make it happen.