Hi everyone, I'm Styder,

came across this forum last year after reading The Game.
However, never could pull myself together to get started with pickup...

I had a crush on a one-itis for a 1 year and a half.
I haven only been able to see her few time until now,
as she lives on the other side of globe.
She gave me the LJBF, but since I liked her so much also as a friend,
I kept contact with her.

Some time before I met her, I have been friends with an another girl.
I only thought as a friend, but she told me that she had fallen in
love with me after a year Haven't seen that comming
As I had a crush on my one-itis, I turned her down...
I thought many times that I should stop pursuing my one-itis and move on.

I have seen the girl that I like when I was been able to, and text her few times a
month while we were distant from each other in quite a AFC manner
Luckily for me, it payed off keeping contact with her,
She told me that she had also fallen in love with me and want to be with me.

I guess this is one of the rare occasions that a dude gets his one-itis.

Just wondering, how come you guys recommend to quit pursuing one-itis?
I mean, as a pua, don't you have the options to date other girls,
while pursuing the girl you think is the one? (or do it like the AFC-way like me)

If you FTOW to fill out the hole in your soul anyway after getting rejected,
why not keeping contact with her anyway?
Style wasn't able to get his one-itis by using pick ups; it had the opposite effect!
Maybe, being just yourself is the best way to get the one-itis?
I mean, there may be something to it after all?

I think that reading "The Game" by Neil Strauss, and the two books by John Gray
"Men are from mars, Women are from Venus" and "Mars and Venus on a Date"
helped me to understand how men and women thinks

Maybe I was lucky, but getting the one-itis isn't that impossible after all,
just time-consuming!
Keeping contact with her by texting openers, being understanding and supportive
when she is feeling down, complimenting her when she is happy, very basic AFC stuff,
but I must admit that it wasn't painless.

Anyway, just happy that I didn't move on!

wrong a pua only teach how to get not to keep i agree you need how to use all the tech of the player triplets pua=Mack, lady's man, and the pimp. its easy to pick up girls just have to be clever hard to f-close but if you do it carefully you win. now pimp mind is to have complete control of someone that they cant live with out you. being your self have something do do with it. you want these woman to fall for you mentally and sexually.

and if yor willing to be to one woman then do so, but remember karma is a bitch and because you being a pua. someone will take your girl or play your daughter. i say keep a open relationship until your 4sure your ready to settle down

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A player is just a man that won't settle for less

rozedavoice,

thanks for your advice.

Indeed, it would be nice if she is so into me that she couldn't live without me.

As a newbie, I am still terrible at picking up girls,
or keeping a conversation going with girls I don't know beforehand
You are right, I would have so many more benefits being a pua than a AFC.

I think she is the one, but yeah, you never know, what is going to happen later.
Don't wan't to think about it

Thanks again, I will try to do so.