Hey guys,
I've been studying seduction material for a bit more than a year and I'm concerned by my progress, which has been minimal and shows no current sign of improving. I have read 'the game', 'mystery method', 'double your dating' and done regular night and day approaches. I am doing a second degree and am currently at college, where it's fresher's week SPAM.
Oookay, the timing may be a clue to my concern.
I'm concerned because, despite being surrounded by 18 year old girls and having oodles of life experience and PU knowledge/practice...
...I remain a 23 year old virgin. I've never even had a proper GF. Since I've been reading seduction material, my makeout count has gone up...to about seven.
There is something wrong with my approach to PU and I need to find out what it is before I turn 40
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As a CLASSIC case study, here's what happened tonight.
Approach Number 1: We're all walking to a nearby club. I'm peacocking with a garish red tie, BTW. On the way, I spot a 3-set walking in the same direction and open.
2 HB6s, 1 HB 7.
Galhopper: "Hey guys, did you hear about the fight at our block last night?" (I made it up, but it seems a good opener)
HB6 (not sure which one): "Whoa, where? How?"
Galhopper: "What? You didn't? Wait...what block are you?"
HB7: Block XX.
Galhopper: "Geez, it was right by block XX! Man, you guys must be, like, deaf or something! (They laugh). So come one, that's pretty crazy, right? What's the craziest thing you guys have seen this fresher's week?"
HB6: Um...well, there's this guys in our flat who walked in pretty drunk...
HB6 (the other one): OMG yeah, he was, like, TOTALLY out of it! (She grabs my arm)
Galhopper; Whoa, hands off the merchandise! BTW I haven't asked your names yet, have I? I'm Galhopper.
Etc. Cocky and funny, social proof, DHV, confidence etc. I can get to this stage with a lot of sets.
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Aaaand then, in classic Galhopper fashion, it all goes horribly wrong.
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I know the way to the club, so I lead them there. When they're in the queue, they see hallmates (all male) and say hi. I social proof myself with the hallmates, but the HB's lose their attention. I try to open one of the HB's again but get blown out of set. I move on.
When I was in the club, by the way, my 'state' was high. I breakdanced with someone who turned out to be a local pro and generally had high energy. Some people liked the tie. Others hated it. As usual, I didn't care. My inner game was good-at least, so it seemed.
In the club, I meet another girl. She's on her own. She's not hot. Let's call her a 5. I can't remember how the convo went, but she was giving clear IOI and SHE wanted us (me and her, no-one else) to sit down together. She leans in. I use kino and comfort (music preference etc).
Galhopper style, it all goes wrong.
Her mates want to move to another part of the club. I make it clear that I'm not needy and stay where I am. But she's heading off with the others. I say goodbye.
Oddly enough, I later bump into her on the dance floor. We dance, but awkwardly. (she's moving around really jerkily etc and her body language is awkward) No (apparent) attraction whatsoever.
Heard enough? Guys, I need help. Fast.
I need to know where I'm going wrong and how to correct it. I am trying to maintain the alpha frame, but as time goes on, my inner game is doing as gravity dictates
BTW, I am a normal guy with hobbies who goes to the gym, etc. I have a good few friends (male and female) and don't tend to care what people think of me-as in, I'm not needy or oversensitive (Believe me, I used to be). Hence the red tie! I have no known social problems (other than sometimes overnegging girls when opening-this didn't happen tonight!) but have the sexual experience of someone with chronic aspergers!
If there is any material I should read/watch/listen to, I cannot emphasise how much I need it-I feel that my situation is unique to me and me only. Please show me that it ain't! Or is it symptomatic of something deeper?
Thanks, and sorry that this post was so long-it's just that I find it hard to explain how a confident outgoing guy who has relatively little problem approaching has developed such a disastrous sticking point.
Galhopper
CHAT