Hi Gang

I'm 19, from Jersey, go to school in Illinois. I'm an incredibly horny fella, but have absolutely no sexual experience (never kissed a girl) and still don't know how to go about getting it. "Frustrated" isn't quite the right word lol. I do have a decent amount going for me: elite university in an honors major on a full tuition scholarship, accomplished athlete (albeit not in a "cool" sport), champion debater, I'm capable of being really funny (though this often breaks down around attractive women), and I'm quite naturally goodlooking (pictures have scored as high as 9.9 on hotornot, though I'm kinda short (5'8 i think.)) Problem is, I also have a lot of stuff going against me too. I'm ungodly lazy and it shows (I pretty much dress and groom like a homeless person), I'm an asshole (and not in the "bad boy" way, in the "did he just call me stupid, belch, and take my place in line" way), and I am Wile E. Coyote when it comes to women (a girl once came up to me giggling and told me I looked like John Mayer, to which I responded "uhhhh, ok? Is that a good thing?" I could literally make this site's servers crash with stories like that.) I've only ever had one "girlfriend", who I met at a political conference and was long distance with for the entire "relationship". She was a knockout and we really clicked on a lot of levels, but her religion kept us from doing anything physical (she dropped that bomb a little fuckin' late in the game) and eventually broke us up. I've known about this community for a while, but was too skeptical to actually take a look at the material. I finally cracked, and in the last two weeks read Double Your Dating, MM, and GWM. I have atrocious AA when I'm not on something, but I'm gonna try like hell to get over and finally do something about this girl situation. Any advice or support would be appreciated...I'd kinda just like to know I'm not the only one who's been here, and that others have found a way out.

If everything I just read about you is true, you'll be just fine.

You already read three books. Try to understand the basic principles, go and practice.

Damn math...you caught me. It's all a lie. I'm not even into chicks: I get off on misleading people I'll never meet

The practice thing might be tricky: I live in a small town (home now for break), don't know how to drive, and feel uncomfortable going up to my parents and saying "hey guys, could you drive me to the nearest mall so I can spend an hour glancing awkwardly at passing girls and come back to the car reeking of sweat and shame". Though if I do find a way to get to a reasonable area (or even if I can't get any practice in until I go back to school), any recommendations on where to get started if I'm not that into clubs (I know GWM mentions department stores a lot).

Dude:

http://www.persuasive.net/have-you-ever ... s-to-stop/

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Touche, sir.
Point taken.

I'd recommend ypu start handling y ou're AA, by just talking to strangers. Having noagenda beyond that. You'll quite quickly lose some of that fear that stops you.

I'd recommend David DeAngelo's double your dating pdf and reading the inner game bits over and over.

Good luck and let us know how it goes.


-Loke