I've been reading around these forums for a couple days now, trying to get pointers and stuff, and it seems like you guys know what you're talking about. So I'm just going to get straight to it.

First thing is first. I don't want tips on how to pick up girls. I want to improve my confidence, self-esteem, natural vibe, and the lack of respect I receive from others. I believe if all this is top notch, the girls should be no problem.

I'll be 20 years old in September. I'm about 6'2, I'm shy(ish) and I'm pretty skinny. I've got lots of friends, BUT my problem is I feel that I am close to the "bottom feeder" of them all. I get NO respect from anyone, and I'm almost constantly getting ripped on. Growing up, all I've been told was "Just ignore them. Laugh it off." I've done nothing but that, but these guys just don't let up and it's really getting to me. It's effecting everything that I want to improve.

Confidence:
When I was in grade 9 or 10 I'd like to think I had a lot of confidence. I could talk to people and girls without a problem. Nowadays... I feel like I'm socially awkward. I'm usually one of the quietest people in the conversation, and I feel when I do add something, it's stupid and unnessacary. If someone new comes to talk to me, or someone I'm uncomfortable with, I literally blank out and don't know what to say which will follow with me saying something retarded.

Self-Esteem:
Again, when I was in high school, I could think of a MILLION things I loved about myself and what other people like about me. Nowadays... nothing. And I don't like to make excuses, but I really think it is because of my friends. I'm a sensitive person I guess, and since they constantly rip on me I get no positive feedback from anyone. So I guess I've made myself believe that I have no good aspects about myself.

Natural Vibe:
You know when you are just looking around and you see someone and you just KNOW that he's an awesome dude? I don't have that. This could be because of my self-esteem but I feel that just the way that I sit, walk, AND talk, I give off this vibe that I'm the "inferior" person. Therefore, girls aren't interested, and I get disrespected from everyone.

Respect:
This is the NUMBER ONE thing I want. If you're a respected person, you are liked by everyone. No matter what you say, it's the right thing. No matter what you do, it's not stupid, it's funny.
I feel I am disrespected by everyone. By this I mean.. I get no props for anything. Basically what I'm saying is.. I could win a Stanley Cup and I would still be bad at hockey. I hope you guys know what I mean? Now, I'm not sitting here and demanding respect. I know you have to earn it, but the thing is I don't give ANYONE problems. I'm ALWAYS looking out for my bro's. I don't talk behind anyone's back. I don't complain to anyone, and I don't start shit with no one that doesn't deserve it. What the hell do I have to do to gain respect?

My dad has always taught me, "Do onto others as you'd have them do onto you". It's a quote from the bible I guess, and it pretty much means.. treat people the way you want to be treated. I've based my life around this. I treat everyone with respect and I get none in return.

Help?:(

One would hope.
You, sir, are on the right side of the railroad.
Good job.
Been there man.
Feed off the vibe. If they crack on you, crack back. It's not what you say, it's building on how it's said.

Ignore the words, focus on the vibe. Words are cars; talk to the driver.
Shut up.
The past is dead.

You're not awkward, you merely THINK you are.

Thinking is WRONG. Doing WORKS.
Shut up
The past is dead

You don't have low self esteem, you merely THINK you do.

Thinking is wrong. DOING WORKS.
...although this is rooted in the now;
You are wrong.

You don't lack vibing skills, you merely THINK you do.

Thinking is wrong, DOING WORKS!!!!!
To be respected, one must first demonstrate respect
Shut the fuck up and stop beating yourself up.

And you're not that righteous. You DID talk shit about someone, you ARE complaining right now, and you're trying to start shit right NOW.

Want respect? Show respect.
And your Dad is right
But obviously you didn't listen. Tsk tsk.

The bible is a good book.
To have friends, one must be a friend.
Two options:

A) Buy a ticket to the Bronx Zoo, hide until it closes, sneak into the Lion cage, and punch the lion in the face, then face it, man to beast, and kill it with your bare hands, and bring it's skull to a nearby church, and throw it at the priest's face.

OR

B)Live in the now, let go of the past, forget the future, and shut the fuck up about your miseries.

Either way, you'll realize that neither the past or the future really matter; all is decided at that PRESENT MOMENT.


If you do decide to do A, just keep in mind a lion will only attack if it senses that you fear it.