I'd like to say hi to everyone here. Love the topics and have been reading from afar for a while now and wanted in on the action/chat/adivce.

A bit about myself:
I'm 28, and not a total AFC and am confident enough to approach. I'm definitely not skilled at what I do, but I am confident enough to go up to people and say hi.

Annoyingly I am massively AFC when it comes to keeping things cool between me and my Gf. I wanted to post in the Relationship section but needded more posts! Sorry if this is still in the wrong place!

So as an intro to me I'd like to kick off with a quick question for advice.

I've been with my Gf for about 8-9 months now. She's older than me, things are cool, we get on well and have done a lot of stuff together in a short amount of time - Holidays/family stuff on both sides/and met all mates etc. We're in love and that's cool, but either because I'm a total AFC and don't back myself properly or because there's foundation, I'm not always comfortable she's telling me the whole truth.

Now this is based on so little (I can already hear people *face/palm* and thinking, "chill the fuck out") but after going on a course recently she met some guy on it, who clearly wanted to get to know her more (he was in a band that nearly came big, knew robbie williams manager blah blah shit). I'd say she's an HB8. She attracts a lot of attention and is outgoing and not dense.

It seems that she gave him her number as she's just told me she's had a text off him about passing the course exam. At the time I found out they went to lunch together on the Monday, but she didn't tell me until it fell out of her mouth on the Tuesday (I'd asked her on the Monday if she had had a good lunch - not knowing about what she'd been doing - and she had just said, "yes thanks").

So now I want to play this right. The adrenaline is kicking in and I instictively wnat to say, "WTF, you gave this guy your number, and it was a week long course... WHY?!" but I know that's seriously AFC and I should really be chilled and say, "oh that's nice". But to me that sounds really lame.

Maybe I should take it further and say, "so let's meet this chump". And call the shots, but man I've gotten so jealous so easily, but sometimes what you believe is intuition, is really there to fuck you up!

How do I stay cool about it and how should I play this on out? Should I ask more about this guy to find out who he is and what she thinks of him or take zero interest?

Thanks for reading this, constructive critisism is very welcome and let me know if this makes no sense (I'm rambling as this has shit me up a bit!!).

Cheers all

P.S. Oh, I'd just like to add that from something I recently read on the forums, previous posters (and there are numerous) have forced a change of outlook on me for the rest of my life. The inner game is crucial to your own happiness and it's that that I need to max out on. Seriously, thank you if you're a poster who keeps promoting the inner game mantra - I know it's crucial to the game in general, but sometime's it's easy to forget. So thank you, you've done me a great deal of good already.