hey guys im 18, and ive been into "the game" since last september. i actually got into pick up through my friend samir. We were at the mall and he saw this really cute girl (around HB9) and he was freaking out because he didn't know how to approach. next thing i know, he sprints torwards this bookstore in the mall and frantically starts searching for "the game" by neil strauss. i found it quite amusing at the time because i didn't really buy the whole pickup thing and then he glaced at the beggining and then went up to the girl and got her number. i was in awe! he ended up buying the book and giving it to me.. i was already a fan of neil strauss after reading the book he did with motley crue, but this just knocked him up a knotch in my book. I treated "the game" like a bible, i would read it before bed and meditate on the information. but alas it was not a guide it was neil's story of his introduction into game and all the innovations he made to it. i did learn a few things from it which helped me out alot.
after a few weeks of that i started researching PU online and found David DeAngelo, and bought his book and that added anothe level to my game. i quickly became addicted to learning about game. i read as much and bought all the game books i could. i even dabbled in NLP.
i now am quite profissient in PU. i truly belive that if i want to i can lay almost any girl i want to. ive even brought alot of my friends into PU and have helped them achieve great success.
on top of getting me girls PU has made me more confident i can walk into any situation with my head held high and go talk to anyone now. i am so greatful to the PU community.
but noone can be perfect and i joined the forum to get some feed back from my fellow PUAs to help my game reach a higher level.
my BIGGEST sticking point right now is kind of weird.
so lets say i see a HB. i would usually go up to her
introduce myself run some game, get her attracted to me do some comfort and then close her (if the situation allows). but if now i would atleast go for a kiss and get her number. now my follow up is usually good, and stuff. i dont put her on a pedestal, and all that stuff. but when i get to know her personality and i start to acutally like her for who she is all my game goes to shit.
i suddenly cant get her out of my mind, and begin to play it safe. so i wont lose her. and at this point she is usually still into me and its all going great but then i always screw it up by playing it safe and all the things that attracted her to me are gone (being cocky funny, spontaneous, sexual, etc). and then i go into a deep depression for a few days after she stops being into me. and the cycle repeats.
the worst part is that i KNOW what im doign wrong and how to fix it but something in me wont let me do it. i really hope someone in here can help me out.