hey everyone, My name is Sukhi.

I am a 6'2 200 pound dude who is looking to dramatically improve my game. I am currently a college student here in southern California. For the past 3 years (I am 23 btw), I have had a girlfriend who I just recently broke up with. After a few months of coping with the breakup, I am now ready to try and meet new women. These are the few encounters I had so far......which didn't go the way I wanted to.

1). I sit behind this cute girl in my marketing class. I start talking to her 5min before class starts. I introduce a few jokes and asked her about herself...etc. She smiles at me, turns around and continues to talk to me. I end up having to stop chatting with her because class starts. I decide to pass her a note asking for her number. She does not give me her number, instead she asks if I have a facebook. I unfortunately do not have a facebook. She asks for my blackberry messenger username, which I give to her. I ask for hers, but she tells me that she doesn't know her blackberry messenger, which I think is total BS. At that point I am thinking that she has a boyfriend and doesn't want to give out her number or she just isn't that into me?

2). My friend and I go to a hookah bar. My friend ends up playing some Xbox video game at the bar, and I was left alone. I decide to find a few girls to chat with. Instantly I see 2 cute girls come in and I immediatly start talking to them. My friend ends up joining me. All four of us end up talking for 2 hours. The girl that I am interested in ends up telling me that she has a boyfriend. So I just didn't bother to ask for her phone number.

-after these two incidents, I really feel like my confidence has gone down, and whenever I try to talk to a random girl, I come off sounding nervous. I feel rejected when a girl does not seem interested, even though I shouldn't. What do you guys suggest?

Many people will say, forget if she has a bf. Have you read The Game?

Time for you to start using situational openers on new women out and about, introduce kino, games like the cube etc...

thank you for the advice bro! I have not read the Game. I will def pick it up. As for situational openers, I will search around the forums and learn. thanks again.

Defo worth reading , nearly finished it and it is great, I'm going to start another book soon.

Situational openers are great, or opinion ones. Like one of Mystery's favourites... "Hey , quick question, what do you think of girls with tattoos?

After then, you have engaged convo, 90% of the time you will get a reply, from then as your game develops, it will be so easy to pull.

Hey man! I hope you find what you are looking for here!

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thanks alot man! i have already skimmed through some threads on getting over approach anxiety and how to give some good openers. So i will definatly see this forum as a great resource.

Remember to share your results, good or bad in the field report section. That way people can advise you and stuff

with that girl at the hookah bar, should have used a boyfriend destroyer pattern or whatever they call it. Another thing is you shouldnt have asked that girl for her number you should have brought up some reason that you might need it. Like a study group or something man anything where she would feel the need to give you her number.
Also man you just gotta keep approaching and opening and running your game. The jitters will go away. Just remember they are more worried about what your thinking about them than judging you. and dont leave a girl any option but to accept you.

hey bro thanks! I am very new to gaining more insight on my game. Right now I work at a Market, so I try to make conversation with any girl I see, even if its just a friendly chat. I feel this will help my socializing skills so that I can overcome the nervousness.

Good move in the market, it'll remove any approach anxiety.

thanks bro! right now my problem is getting past small talk. I want to be able to think of shit quick to continue on with the conversation. I'm gonna look into natural game.

Why is she talking to two complete strangers for 2 hours if she has a boyfriend?

maybe women like the feeling of talking to new guys, even though their taken.

My opinion, one because they're friendly, and I'd work with this, still game them, if you can get a girl who has a bf you up your chances with a lot of women.

Secondly, maybe she doesn't really have a bf, and it's her shield, or you appeal to her.

yeah that could be true. She actually goes to my school. I never see her around. If I do, do you think I should still game her?