I see a lot of people everyday. Some people are smiling too much, some to rare; some seem arogant trying to show they are confident, some are too scared, etc.
How do you find the perfect balance, since feedback from other is ussualy very poor and you can't find out by yourself ?
A cool guy is someone that everybody wants to be around him. He is attractive no matter what and he is not even thinking about whether he's attractive or not. You see, it's not enough to have only high selfesteem, it's a bigger combination.
I am still working on becoming a cool guy, but the road is long. Can somebody give me some shortcuts, plans or tricks to permanently change my personality?
I tried self-hypnosis, but since all the sesions are in english and english is not my first language, doesn't really work for me.

I´m agree with you, I thought show confidence was showing that you're serious when you talk, but that is not the way, try to smile when you approach a person but keep your Back erect and your voice with a very deep sound, talk slow but make jokes, tell some funny stories and have fun, be relaxed!!

I'd say that instead of trying to be 'cool' that you try to be likeable.

Acknowledge people, say hi to people - give people high fives, listen to what others have to say, share stories, laugh, invite people out to lunch, to dinner, organise outings - go and do fun stuff with others, know how to have a good time.

What you're really trying to get from being 'cool' is for people to like you anyway.

When people like you, and when you are the guy that's always having a good time, and have a positive outlook on life, that's when you become cool.

The uncool guy is the guy sulking around in the corner keeping to himself.

The other thing is that you're here on the PUA forum. If you're the guy that's hanging with lots of friends, and having a good time, then of course chicks are going to like you more - it's social proof.

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I didn't say that I am trying to be cool around people, I said I want to change my personality in order to be cool, that's a HUGE difference. I know a lot of people that are trying to get along with everybody and they are screwed. People must come to you, not you to them !!!
It's looks like Nelved understood my message. He gave one step of being cool : you show that you're confident by being relaxed, like you "keep the situation under control".
I am wating for more pieces to complete the Cool guy !

I'm not saying that you should get along with everybody - I'm saying that you should make people get along with you. Don't take shit from anyone though - if someone gives you shit, either ignore them, or have a short and sweet comeback.

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try looking up modelling in NLP George. if you go on the NLP creations website there is a free audio on there to help you out.