New RAFC here. First time at the club. Long read.



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PostPosted: Sat Feb 06, 2010 7:53 pm 
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Sup guys. This is my first time reaching out to the pickup community. After a somewhat painful, yet enlightening night in the field, I'm more motivated than ever to take the plunge and go from AFC to PUA. I've been studying PU almost religiously for about 6 months now. I constantly heard, that no matter how much you read, it's nothing without actual experience. Nothing could be more true. I've had some serious ups and some serious downs, but thought I was making progress. however recently, I went clubbing for the first time. Since I'm under 21 and all my friends are older, they went and did their own thing while I did mine alone at a 18+ club which was nowhere near as hype as the surrounding 21+ areas. None the less, I was eager to have the opportunity to go sarging without my boys around judging me (which was good because I was getting shot down left and right) and even though it felt like I was in the kiddie pool with not too many other people, there were plenty of HB9s and HB10s who would come and go. The whole night I felt very intimidated. I felt like everybody in the club was watching me because I only had 3 options. sit around looking like a wallflower, walk back and forth around the room or approach HBs. I was not about to ruin all the inner game I had built up since starting, by pussying out and reverting to full blown AFC mode. I start the night out big by asking a HB10 on the dance floor if she wanted to dance, she starts grinding on me, but seemed very hesitant to do much else after dancing. the rest of the night consisted of me approaching, approaching and approaching. Couldn't get any sets to hook no matter how friendly and receptive they seemed at first, but most had bitch shields up from the start and i have no experience whatsoever in disarming them.

I eventually snuck into the 21+ area to hang out with my friend (total AFC). The energy was overwhelming and I felt intimidated, but I did my best to cover it up. After finally getting to the other side of the dance floor, we ended up near the restrooms. I'm thinking "ok perfect spot, right near the action and sooooo many girls are gonna pass by here to use the ladies room". As the 9s and 10s poured in and out of the ladies room, I started to feel like getting rejected in front of all these people would lower my value. I chickened out a few times, but still approached a 3 set that was dancing near by. As I went in to talk to a HB7 she accidentally brushed my head, appologized and I said it was messed up and she should dance with me to make up for it. Shot down again. By now I had developed a very thick skin, so i approached a smoking hot blonde HB10 who ended up being pretty friendly, but ended up being married. Now I'm feeling like I have to move to a new area, as I do this I end up getting kicked back down to the minor leagues by security. From there I approach 2 asian HB8s sitting on a coach. eventually conversation dies down and I eject. My friend meets up with me for a little bit and sits next to me and starts asking me why I'm not pulling any girls. At this point, I'm thinking "fuck this, I'm not leaving tonight as a loser". I immediately pick myself up and walk up to a nearby 2 set. An 8 and a 7 and drop the natural game that had worked for me in the past to see how some routines would work. I walked up...

me- "hey guys lemme ask you something, do i look gay to you because blah blah blah".
HB8- *scans me* "You? No way!
me- well at least you notice my masculinity.
HB- laughter + eye contact (me thinking my luck might change)
me- "typical afc boring talk... wanna dance?"
HB- No I'm tired. (seems to be losing interest)
me- well I gotta go, nice meeting you.

I make a few more attempts, but at this point I guess my crippled confidence was starting to show. I sit back down thinking "fuck it all". and start sitting in the most relaxed laid back way possible and shortly after, a HB7 walks up and asked if she can sit by me, while already sitting down. I say "you know I didn't say you could". the interaction gets somewhat playful and we start dancing. I ask her if she always dances so PG and she blames the music. After a while I fuck it up again, somehow. Probably by not being aggressive enough. After that, me and my friends meet up and go home. One of them was apparently the life of the party at a nearby spot, and pulled several numbers.

After all this, something amazing happened though. Despite failing miserably at the club and feeling like I needed to rebuild my game from the ground up, I felt great! I never thought I'd be able to to approach women on a whim like that. I must have got shot down at least 20 times, but it was never really that bad. In the past I was only running game on girls who I would be introduced to through friends and have had solid success at parties by just enjoying myself, using a little bit of cocky funny to build attraction and my natural ability to build rapport with people. Never had much success with day game, but I rarely tried. I had too much approach anxiety for it. However, after this experience at the club, I feel like I'm finally over my fear of rejection. I'm feel ready for more day game, which is my best option being underage for now. Clubs can be VERY intimidating. They can kill your self esteem if you let it, but if you're having problems with AA and rejection, then nothing is gonna help you like going to a club by yourself and constantly getting blown out. Clubs seem like a blast if you don't feel out of place. I got a year before I'm 21, so I'm looking at this time as practice so I'm more socially calibrated when the time comes. I feel I've come a long way since my full blown afc days, but the road to becoming a pua is a long one. I'm more motivated than ever now to take my game to the next level and hopefully become a really good pua some day.

Thanks to anybody who actually read all that. Tips would be much appreciated.


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