| Hey everyone, this is gonna be a long one so brace yourselves.
About me:
As you can tell by the title, I am a total rookie. Currently sitting 23 years of age and only had 1 girlfriend, although the relationship didn't last too long. I would consider myself average looking at best (I've been told that I am cute a few times, but means nothing seeing as I'm not with any of those girls). I'm fairly fit since I workout with a few friends at the gym about 3-5 times a week (kind of the self improvement part, but I've been doing it before I wanted to become a PUA). Now, with my 24th birthday coming up, I realize that I'm at the prime of my life, yet I have no girlfriend and still a virgin.
Little Story:
I guess what put me in this state of depression would be an old friend of mine (high school crush, never hooked up), messages me out of no where and asks how I've been. We talk for a bit, and I find out she's going to the same university as me. Now this is great, we get together, hangout, and talk nearly every night afterward; but fast forwarding the story a little, things don't go well (for no apparent reason) and it's a repeat of high school all over again. Things didn't end badly, but they didn't end well either. We now no longer talk to each other, and I don't expect to hear from her for another 3-5 years.
I can't help but blame myself, after reading about IOI's I realized they were all there: she asked me if I was single, asked me to take her out for her birthday (when I didn't even know her birthday was coming up since we hadn't spoken in years), and she even went as far as to enroll in one of my classes. My game just wasn't there, she was basically handing herself over to me. I was too afraid to neg, kino, or do anything for that matter. I was definitely questioning myself about it afterward, wondering if she was into me, only to find out too late. I wonder to myself, if a girl who's into me doesn't want me in the end, how can I expect to become a PUA?
How I am Socially:
I don't feel like I lack a social circle as I have a really close group of friends who like going to bars, partying, etc. But it's at these gatherings there are all these beautiful women and I am just that guy that stares, does nothing, and then tells his buddies about how hot the girls are, always too afraid to do anything - basically clinging to the wall all night. I always ask my friends to hook me up (or ask one of my buddies' gfs to do it), but whenever the time comes, I basically wet my pants and back out. I remember one time my friend (really built guy) had to use quite a bit of strength just to force me to sit next to a random girl at the bar and talk to her (conversation was awkward and clearly going no where), and she wasn't even hot. For some reason, I have no problem talking to girls I'm not interested in and can hold a decent conversation, but when it comes time to seduce one, I cower like a school girl.
How I discovered PUAs:
I stumbled across David D's "Double Your Dating" while watching a youtube video and I noticed his advertisement out of the corner of my eye, so I figured, "What's the harm in checking it out?" and realized that he had some great advice to offer. I then purchased his book (also currently working on "The Game" by Neil Strauss) and discovered that many, if not all, of these guys started off where I am. Also while reading "The Game" I noticed that Style used a forum as one of his starting points for advice; so here I am everyone, this is my starting point.
Signed,
Dither
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