| Hey guys, I'm 25 from Birmingham, AL
I got into "the game" just a few months ago reading a few books and watching dvds and it has already helped me tremendously at the attraction stage. It's also frustrating the hell out of me. I am attracting all kinds of women now including many 8's and 9's, but still after talking for a few minutes I get in that crazy nervous state and completely lost in trying to make a connection, then lose her. I need advice on building comfort/connecting with a girl and how to keep non-nervous frame of mind so I can keep a conversation more than 2 minutes (maybe some NLP techniques?)
Couple things about me: I've been playing guitar for 12 years, mostly blues, classic rock, metal, I'm a purple belt in Brazilian jiu-jitsu, play alot of online poker, really into good beer.
My biggest problems with social interaction is from growing up with alot of social anxiety and depression. Won't get into much but I had very manipulative parents that constantly put me and my sister down and they did some pretty crazy things to us. I had very low self-esteem, self worth, etc. for a long time. It was hard to connect with people because I envied their life and felt socially "lower" than everyone.
About 3 years ago I broke away much from my parents and got through much of the anxiety. I felt so much better and made literally 10x more friends than I had before. However, though I think well of myself and can carry on a great conversation, I still suck with women. Given the lack of experience, it is THE worst skill area in my life despite how interesting and different they see me as. They have a huge power over me for the fact that I have never been intimate with a girl before. I'm 25 and the most I have done before is dated a bit and held hands with one girl, pretty sad. I finally got on a forum because I admit, I feel pretty desperate at times now and it affects everything else I do.
Well so far cocky comedy techniques works best for me. The bratty sister deal is also great.
My goals are pretty general: get more women in my circle of friends, date alot of them, and have a girlfriend or a few within 1/2 a year. Man just getting laid before turning 26 and not be embarrassed about being a virgin anymore would be great!
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