Yo guys,

I am from Holland and i am 20 years old, and i need advice. I study at a university and i have met a girl at our students fraternity (I dont know how you guys call it). I talked to her while we were cleaning up the mess from fridays night disco and we had a great conversation. And the next monday I saw her at the disco and started to dance with her and we danced for like 3o minutes and she said she had to go home. The next time I saw her was last friday and we danced and we had a great night. AndI was playing it cool and not acting like an AFC. At the end of the night I asked her if she wanted to do something and she loved to do something and said I could call her up. And before she went home I kissed her on her cheeck ( don't ask me why i didn't K-closed, I already hate myself for that ). SO Here is my question, shall I text her to tell her that we can hang out next week and that I will call her then (because I am in a middle of exames right now), so that she still thinks about me. Or shall I call her next week out of the blue and ask her then? And is going for a drink the best first date and if so, is it better to do it around 9 pm or in the afternoon?

Hope you guys can help me out

Strike while the irons hot. That's what i'd do. - Redkid

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Dude, you need to switch it around instead of you hanging out with her... SHE is hanging out with YOU.

Make it a privilege to hang out with you. Say something like "well, i've got exams this week... but if you're REALLY lucky - I might be able to squeeze you in next week some time."

Make her chase you, not the other way around. After you go out with her then, k-close it.

Thx guys, ur genius! I was trying to think the whole day what to text to her, but with your reply its very easy now! Let the chasing begin

Hey guys
This happened after I texted the girl
SHe: I can only date you, if we go out just as friends nothing more, because I have a boyfriend! I am really sorry.
Me: Yeah sure! But why didn't you told me that before. But its ok, see ya later
She: Yeah I know that ur upset, but I really think ur nice, so thats why
Me: Yeah sure. Maybe i can laugh at this later. They just have to put markers on our shoulders so that we know who is single and who is not;)
She: Ah, hey i hope that you don't feel bad about it, thats not what i am after
Me: Yeah I know, but I think its a shame! But Fuck it, there are more fish in the sea, See ya!
SHe: Ah sorry! I didn't knew u cared that much. But I want to be friends, i dont have to distrust me, because that woulkd be a shame!
Me: Is cool, later

It didn't went as I planned, what do you guys think?
Should I ignore her? Or just stay friends and she can introduce me to her other friends (or something like that) ?

Yup you fucked it up. Or rather she wasn't interested in going any further. Nothing wrong here. Live and learn. You made it clear it was upsetting you by being reactive to the comment. Let the bf comment bounce off or play off of it with a cocky funny attitude. I like the reply 'Great, he can make us breakfast then' reply to I have a boyfriend. There are tons of them.

If you want her as a friend, sure, keep on seing her. Nothing wrong with that. Be warned though, forget about dating/fucking that girl. Don't go into the friend zone thinking you'll fuck her when she's single again. It takes a lot of skill to pull that off and having a hidden agenda about her will not do you any good.

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Yeah, have to say you're screwed on that one.

However, don't stop talking to her all together, just mostly. Make sure you keep in touch with her every once in a while - just in case she changes her mind.

Play the game on her, but keep it slow and simple.