This game is all quite new to me really, ive picked up girls on nights out but hasnt everybody at some stage? But i recently found the urge to be really good at picking up. Hence looking into it and ending up here.
Before finding out about PUA's, I have been chatting to girls on dating sites, nothing sinister just a bit of fun. Thing is, my profiles on the sites seem to attract a bit of attention, because i write about how i would like to find love again, not hurt anybodies feelings or mess anybodies mind around blah blah blah...It seems to be what they want to hear as they tell me this, but truth be told, I dont really mean it.
My problem is, i cannot seem to transfer this into face to face encounters, is it because i can hide behind a screen and find it easier? How can i transfer this to real encounters? You have a little more time to be witty and say the right thing on screen but i seem to blow it at the peak moment out and about..
Any advice as to how i can improve my ways? Maybe just head to the malls and give it a go? Trial and error? How does everybody build their confidence, and is net talking a form of picking up? Maybe it is good practice? any good tips?

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Hey, great post..

I won't go into details here since there's so much to be said and this is just the introduction part of the forum..

But getting touchy-feely from the start is a bad idea. I wouldn't talk about finding love again, not hurting feelings and so on.

This is not what women are looking for.. I suggest you read some basics. You will immediately see the focus is on creating powerful ATTRACTION, being confident, different, being a real man.

Greetings from a long time student of the art

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Thanks for the reply, and compliment...Yeah i agree, basics are what i need to read. I have read a few posts from peoples situations etc, but I would like to find something, somewhere or even meet people who could tell/show what to say and how to act. Easy bullet pointed information (if that exists in this game, not so sure if its so easily broken down that way, but get my drift?) would be ideal, as its easier to take in. Where could i find something along these lines? Maybe a book you have read which is kind of the thing you may beleive im after?
Regards...

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ps forgot to mention, the thing is, so many women reply to my add, saying you seem different, not like the other guys, would be good to meet with someone like you, yada yada yada. Isnt that creating the attraction in itself? Thats the reaction we're after, right?

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Without having read your profiles I can't give you a detailed opinion. It's your opinion they're replying because of the feelings, "looking for love again", etc. But things aren't always as they seem..

Consider linking your profile in a pm or here (if allowed, I'm also new).. I don't like taking wild guesses

I suggest starting a new thread under the newbie section, the introduction section isn't here to discuss your game as I understand it.

I would read venusian arts by mystery and double your dating by david deangelo to get started.

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I would advice you to build the attraction and make a girl curious of you. You must show her, you are a male after all. Then start building trust and emotional connection.

Otherwise, if you talk too much about feelings, woman can treat you as someone, who will understand her problems and - as a result - as friend. Such a relationship - having a friend who can be trusted - is comfortable for woman and she rarely would break this relation.

So, avoid being placed in a drawer marked "friend".

The second matter, talking to girls in real life is much more difficult, really. You will commit much mistakes, but you mustn't give up after any rejection. You want to win - you have to play, you have to make mistakes. The only way to avoid defeats is to not play, but ten you won't also feel the taste of a victory.

C'mon, buddy, you can do it!

I would say that right there is your problem. I know Mystery said "Remember, it's not lying... it's flirting!" But I think that reference is geared toward openers and the slight fabrication of stories. My point is this isn't about straight up lying to women. It is about creating a better you so they can like you for who you are, at your very best. Remember, if you pick up girls based on a lie, what happens when you run out of material? Routines? It's just you at that point, and if you perpetrated this lie you're going to be blown out, and she is going to be hurt.

Find a new angle. Not only will it be more honest, but if it is true you will find you have much more success pulling it off and you won't have to rely on the time delay granted by the internet to be witty. Women will like you for who you are, not what your profile says.

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"As to the deceit perpetrated upon women, let it pass, for, when love is in the way, men and women as a general rule dupe each other."
-Giacomo Casanova