Greetings!

I just joined this site because I've been frustrated by an extremely complicated relationship with a female friend of mine. This isn't quite the usual LBJF situation, although it's basically heading that way. I'd love to talk about it i detail but I need 50 posts to make a topic in the appropriate forum. Any way around this??

Anyways, my background is that i'm a 26 y.o. recent graduate school graduate who is still working in the service industry because of the shitty economy/not wanting to work the 9-6 thing again yet. (I like to go out a lot).

I'm a pretty decent looking caucasian male (although I'm pretty small at 5'7" but with a good body) who does pretty well with chicks. I get one night stands and chicks who want to date, and I'm also mostly known as a pretty nice guy, even by girls that I f'close and don't pursue a relationship with because I'm pretty honest with everybody.

I'm really looking for advice on this chick that I've become pretty tight with over the past few months (almost one-itis territory) but can't move on with. Any help/direction to the proper forum is appreciated!

hmmmm... the short and sweet would be to search "oneitis" =)
but since thats not what your looking for, here is a quick and dirty for you to think about..
1) INNER GAME... I cant stress this enouph... let me give you an idea of what I mean "still working in the service industry because of the shitty economy" , "pretty decent looking", "I'm pretty small at 5'7"" Thats a lot of negativity for two paragraphs.... start with yourself... if you dont like the service industry getout... this girl doesnt want to hear about how much you hate your job.. thats not attractive.. Make your life attractive to yourself first...

2) ESCLATE... If your dangerously close to LJBF then the only thing you can do is turn on the attraction, Up the kino and esclate untill she says no.. your the nice guy... the guy she can talk to about anything, its a touph spot, I dont deny... i have a few girls like this in my own life. and sometimes.. theres nothing you can do but enjoy the great friend and focus elsewhere

Thanks for the reply!

The strange thing about this girl is that there is plenty of kino and even some making out at times... hell, she even blew me once a few weeks after meeting her. She likes me to stay over her place and sleep in her bed often, although i don't always stay, which bums her out a bit. Sometimes there is some cuddling, kino, sometimes there is not. I tried to call her out about being in her 'friend zone' and she claims I'm 'definitely not.' When we go out, most people think we are bf/gf because we are always together. She basically just always has an excuse about why we arent really hooking up, wether it's her jealous, crazy ex-bf who is still around or that she isn't really hooking up with anyone right now until she finds someone to truly "be with," which I'm not sure I buy.