Hello forum. I am about to give up and become a monk.

Here's the pertinent information:

I'm 41, live in Brooklyn, NY, work as an Editor for a major publisher in midtown Manhattan. I would not say I'm into the Game, although I read the Strauss book and think it makes sense. I am one of those guys who thought I didn't need the Game, but I obviously need to change something

Goal: To be more demanding of women, to stop trying to please them and think about how they can please me, and to date several women on a regular basis, and have an active sex life. Ultimately, to be in a relationship where I don't feel like I'm always thinking about the other person. I think Step 1 would be to approach and come across as a potential mate, and not a potential friend. I have had a few short-term relationships, but always end up getting lost in the other person.

Honestly, the thought of trying any of these routines scares the crap out of me.

I've been on Match lately, and have had a lot of lame dates. I met one interesting, beautiful woman, and we had several dates and I completely messed it up. I know the friend zone all too well.

I studied a martial art for 11 years, am into yoga, sports, play guitar, and like music, jazz, and actually have a knack for talking to anyone. I am getting back into writing after years as a journalist, and am presently taking a writing course, and expect to have some pieces to shop around to get published in about a year. I am in shape, and do feel confident about my looks.

I do not know much about this forum, and wonder if everyone is half my age, but I'm giving it a shot.

I don't think I have anything to lose. The life of an AFC is not what I want. I actually feel like I can do something about this right now, for some reason. I need to act on it while I do.

I'm going to poke around the site, but feel free to ask me anything or give advice. I probably need to make some PUA friends in NYC to get myself out of this lifelong horrible rut.




Joe