Hey

I'm 26 and live in the UK. I first read The Game about 18 months ago now and have since read quite a bit of stuff from MM to Double Your Dating and also recently got the Annihilation Method.

I have some pretty deep rooted issues regarding women and with life in general really. I used to suffer with social anxiety really badly but it has thankfully improved quite a lot in the last couple of years. I still get very uncomfortable in certain situations though and needless to say, especially around women. I haven't pulled in months now and I have never had a girlfriend as hard as that is for me to admit.

I initially saw the pick up community as a magic pill that would instantly cure my ineptness with the opposite sex. I was naive I suppose. Mystery and co made it all look so easy! Then I got disillusioned with it all mainly due to my own seeming inabilty to get over my chronic AA and forgot all about it for a while. Now I have come back with a clear head and I have lowered my expectations somewhat. I now realise that I need to work on my inner game above all else before I start really going for it. I'll be honest, at this moment in time it feels like a monumental task getting over my anxiety but I'm determined to make it. This isn't all just about girls either. I want to create a better life for myself and become a more confident person all round.

I hope to learn a lot here. Thanks guys

Well Seeker, I hope you find what you seek!

I only joined yesterday, so I might not be the authority on PUA.

The social issues that you talk about is rather interesting. I must admit, in my adoloscent years, I used to be better with girls (although never so much so even kissed a girl, society and all), but a change in paradigm (move to UK) left me rather stranded wrt social adequacies (sp?) and protocols. Needless to say, I struggled (and still do) for a long time.

I too saw The Game asa magic pill, but the truth is far from it. As they say, you can take a horse to drink water, but you can't make it drink it. The Game is not just abouot openers and routine, I believe that a certain emphasis needs to be laid on taking the game and making it natural.

You also talked about confidence, and I must admit, my aim is the same. For me, girls and confidence is a vicious circle..more confidence means better understanding of idiosyncracies that come with talking to girls; and this in-turn leads to more confidence.

So I am with you on this one. Seeing that I just joined around the same time as you, and live in the same country (Birmingham to be precise) and am 23, we might be quite similar. Perhaps we can work on things together..it usually helps I think (it might help me, I lack motivation ).

Anyways, till next time Seeker...take care.

Prince.

i kinda can relate to you Seeker, i also have social anxiety. I just tend to wait until someone talks to me to make conversation but anyway, after reading MM and the game I made a note to myself that it takes time and patience to be a better and completely new person.

chronic AA... hehehe this reminded me of yesterday, I went sarging and roamed around in barnes and noble and found at least 5 hbs who each were alone. I failed at just approaching at 4 of them but finally I opened the last one and just said "Hey, How is your day going? Do you happen to know the time?." After that I just bailed out.

However, I am going to go to barnes and strictly follow the 3 sec rule instead of just hovering.

But anyway, good luck to the both of us! right!? we'll hopefully be a better person after a year of doing game.