So I'm 19 yrs old at college and have several good looking girls sitting around me in my classes. I try talking to the girls every day at class before and after trying to establish a friendship and then go onto dating the ones I like. I try to talk about things in common. I have a cocky funny personality and try to go with that approach but I am new to the gang so I don't fully have that down yet. I also try talking to some of the guys and other people around them...ignoring them sometimes to let them know I have more going on in my life than them and to try establish a higher value.

One of the girls in my class is 24 yrs old, owns her own pet store and is back getting another degree. She is a beautiful short blond in my accounting class and sits to the left of my friend who sits to the left of her. We are starting a study group, the three of us, so I have a way to communicate with her regularly. My end goal is hook up with her and date her but I feel I am lacking confidence and she may be out of my league though its not stopping me from trying.

My questions are
1) Does anyone have any advice in how to start hanging out with them outisde of class, going to parties and asking them out on dates

2) Any advice in setting goals to do in class using the cocky funny approach

3) Any advice to my situation in general

If she's a cool chick you should ask her for a tour of her pet store or something to that degree.

Here's a little help on a mistake that you could make. Since you feel like she's out of your league, you'll probably start trying to prove yourself to her. DO NOT do that. In fact, if possible, do the opposite. Act As If, her owning her own business doesn't amaze nor intimidate you. Act as if this is commonplace and she's just a woman who is on her way to success, but not better than you for it. Unfortunately, you can't ask her out for drinks, and if that's her scene, that could pose a problem.

HOLY FUCK TITS

is anyone else thinking you should take your little sis to her store and get her a cute pet?

she would game harder than tetris if played right.

HA, fuck tits.

If he has a little sister, that's a great idea. i don't have sisters so i didn't even think of it. if not, take someone elses little sister. fuck it.

Thanks for the help guys. I took your advice in not caring and whenever a silent moment happened to not care so she would think it was her fault and it worked out well. Unfortunately I do not have a sister near college and neither do my friends.

Just thought I would give you an update on the situation here. So today with the 24 yr old...we had a study group her, my friend, and I. We did some work talked a little bit, but I was ignoring and kept having her repeat everything she said if she wanted me help.

Eventually we all stopped working and just sat around talking. I mentioned how I was hungry and was going to go get food. Everyone else said they were hungry so the three of us were going to go get food together when my friend said she couldn't make it so it was just the 24 yr old and myself. We got lunch sat around talked and laughed. Whenever a silent moment would happen I would look away and act as if something more important and interesting has caught my attention or just relax and enjoy the silence. She would then start talking asking more questions or telling more stories. It seemed like she had a fun time and we got up walked out still talking. She said she had to go do work I mentioned how I have a lot of class work to do as well said I was over here and departed from her.

So the good news is I have developed a rapport with her and the first time we were together just the two of us was a fun happy moment.

However I am not sure where to take it from here so if you guys have any more advice it would greatly help.

good good job. did you happen to exchange numbers? find out what she does when she isn't working or at school? have another lunch with her a few days or even a week from now, if you can, hold out until maybe she invites you. don't JUMP to go with her, tell her you'll see what your plans are and get back to her...even if you have no plans. she's a busy girl and doesn't want someone who is going to demand a lot of attention from her, so you have to appear as busy as she is. but don't continuously blow her off or anything like that, but just be slightly unavailable sometimes. be elusive and mysterious with your intentions. i think with this girl you should play hot and cold.