Well ok - lair is a bit of an exaggeration - there are 2 of us right now lmao!
So anyway, my name is Bloofire and my buddy's name is Israelite. I am 31, 6 foot tall, 80 kils, probably a 7 on looks - but do the best I can with what I've got
I live nice italian clothes
I like to think i'm pretty smart, own a successful business, have lots of extra curricular interests from snowboarding to yacht sailing to foreign languages, travel, fitness to literature and philosophy. My Myers Briggs personality type is ENFP which if you guys know the system means I am the archetypal intuitive people person, i'm loving having my options open and the more people I talk to the better I feel. I can put anyone at ease quickly but tend to err on the side of being too earnest and deep!! Have had to learn to do cheeky small talk. I'm not bigging myself up - just stating facts of me where I find myself in my life.
My buddy is 33, 5 foot 9, pretty buff, has completely transformed himself in the last year or so - now has a shaved head, no glasses etc. and dresses well. He is a successful osteopath and owns a beautiful pad right in the centre of town. He is an INTJ - so has a brilliant mind for analysing patterns and great interpersonal skills - if a little dispassionate at times.
I found myself single after 8 years of marriage and a total of 12 years with my childhood sweetheart. I got married at age 23 and thanks to a highly evangelical christian upbringing my wife was my first. This was despite having had quite a few other adventures with girls when I was younger. I have always felt naturally comfortable around girls and was able to connect with them. I think this was down to having some excellent girl friends as a teenager. I am ashamed to say that I did have a few extra curricular experiences along the way but found myself single in April this year.
Initially I didn't have any problems finding and bedding some chicks - an old friend - a couple of work colleagues etc... And then my new housemate lent me a book called The Game.....
It's awesome.
I discovered that someone had actually systematized all the stuff that I had to learn by trial and error. Well and a lot more than I know obviously!! My email and text game have been super tight for ages and this PUA stuff has only helped right now I have approx 8 chicks with whom I am corresponding (all at different stages, email, facebook, text, phone, webcam sex, first date + kiss, and shagged) I met up with one chick for a Christmas shopping date last week and we built a lot of comfort and kissed etc. I know that the next one will be the full hotel in London etc...
Anyway – so I did an google search for PUA and Ipswich and came up with an old gumtree advert from a guy looking to go sarging in Ipswich! We got in contact and met up and got on super well. Israelite has been on a bootcamp in London with Gambler and PUA Training so had a little more practice than me. The first night we went out was awesome. We must have opened 7 sets, including 2 sets on the road between bars!! We got a few numbers and it was a buzz! Every time we have been out we have always analysed the good and bad afterwards.
We decided for practice to sign up for speed dating!! It was SWEET! We owned the place. As soon as we went into the room we opened the first girls we saw –way before the dating started. I felt so much energy and opened all the women in the room over the night in the breaks etc.. I got 8 ticks out of 11!! And Israelite k-closed this cute 7 that was there. I winged him at the club afterwards and occupied the obstacle – her friend. And I randomly k-closed another of the speed dates after that. Was a little tricky with the 2 girls and just me… but hey…..! So Israelite f-closed the 7 a few days later and then proceeded to get terrible one-itis which I have only just cured him of – by introducing him to a cool girl friend of mine who is super flirty and hot!!
So then I used Facebook to meet this awesome girl – definitely an 8.5 in my opinion – with the best boobs EVER… - awesome. And I was seeing her for about 2 months. Initially I had a little one-it is but then it became clear that we didn’t ultimately click even though the sex was awesome and she was HOT!! I’m not sure she was really down with my not being ready to settle back down again yet…….
So to summarise we have had some success – but have sooo much to learn still…. WE NEED TRAINING still! I have done VERY little cold approach stuff and basically have ‘the fear’ like everyone. And let’s face it when you’re married you don’t need to worry! Also at my ripe old age I do want fun but I am super picky about the chicks I go for. I am definitely NOT the ‘any lay is a win’ guy. Call me girlie if you want but I have to be really into the chick – and have a connection. Despite having some freedom from my religion I still have super strong values and am really careful to be authentic and true to myself, and to not use people. I’m not saying I’m looking to get married again now, BUT stuff needs to be authentic! I’ll give you another little anecdote to demonstrate what I mean:
I used an online dating site to get in touch with this Bolivian chick a few months back. We agreed to meet for dinner. I thought it would be cool to speak Spanish (bit out of practice) etc. Anyway we met – and to be fair – she was a bit of a hound. Pretty face, but the sort of dumpling body that doesn’t do it for me. Still we chatted away over dinner and built lots of rapport…. She asked to come back to mine for a coffee and as we were having coffee I knew it was on. I didn’t really fancy her but I thought – hell let’s have a kiss and go from there. So we kissed and she did this thing of sucking my bottom lip – which pissed me off a bit….! Anyway – I felt a bit sorry for her (back story was not the greatest) and wondered if I might give her a sympathy shag. So we ended up in my bedroom lying on the bed with our clothes on. She took my hand and pulled it into her knickers – and DUDE! It was like putting my hand through my head hair!!! At that point I sat up and said ‘actually I’m really not feeling this, I’ll take you home!!!’ Oops.
The criteria for my perfect woman are:
Probably blonde.
Pretty.
Has to have big boobs. And I mean really big – i.e. 32E or bigger
Has to have a slim waist.
Has to have a big butt
Not super big but a nice 70% waist to hip ratio
Intelligent – and I mean really smart.
Independent
Adventurous
Funny
Intuitive
Loving and caring
Has her shit together
Personality type INTJ, INFJ or possibly ENFP/J
So there we have it.
We have loads of questions:
Are there any PUAs in Ipswich, UK?? If so get in touch…..
How about London? And can we go sarging with you?
Also I think online dating sucks if you want to find your perfect woman… Let’s be fair – you wouldn’t be on online dating if you were a super hot babe.
I went out the other night with a hot babe friend of mine to a club and it was just us two. We chilled and she sat on my knee in the club on a couch and I was checking out the HBs and she was checking out the guys. But the music was loud and EVEN though I had major social proof I had THE WORST approach anxiety. There was a few sets with super hot girls that I wanted to open but with the music so loud and was terrified of looking AFC. If you can’t get heard how do you differeniate yourself from all the other guys dancing up to them and getting blown out? I am reading the Mystery Method and am loving it so I understand opening mixed sets and bigger sets but it just seemed so hard and scary despite having my girl friend there….. help?
Where do all the best women hang out?!?! I want to meet Doctors, Lawyers, Business Owners etc…. and keep meeting housewifes, mothers, nursery nurses etc…. it sucks!
Anyway – hopefully you’ll realize that I’m a humble guy and have a LOT to learn so would appreciate your input!
Peace.
PS. Not sure if I posted in the correct forum but i'm sure a helpful moderator will move my post if necessary.
CHAT