hi PUAs
i've just bought the book 'the game' and that's all i've been doing (as well as joining various related forums) since friday. as well as most aspiring PUAs, i too have a story of failiure in as far as the ladies are concerned. i think this is mainly due to me being raised solely by my mum and some nannies. my mum was a very dominant character and thus, i believe, i've always been intimidated by women. i've been in one sexual relationship and the rest have been cases where i've managed to snatch defeat from the jaws of victory. women have always seemed interested in me, despite me not having done much. we go out, we talk and then the problem starts. i get very nervous and start to struggle for conversation such that i end up making a mess of the whole thing, and then; 'let's just be friends'. which leads me to the reason i've begun this quest for game. recently, i've helped out one of these chicks i've managed to blunder out of fucking me. she was looking for a place to stay, i took her in, failed to fuck her and now she's smitten over the dude in the next room who is oozing with natural game. she's gone for a drink with him as i write this, and well done to him. i don't hate, i congratulate, however, I NEED GAME!!![/quote]

hey Sharpe!

the sooner u realize u have nothing to lose when it comes to aproaching women, better off u r gonna be. I used to be a wuss, and a super nice guy, I was getting some results, mosly because of the looks, but now when I give them some attitude, it works like charm. So good luck and have fun!

hey funky_junky!
that's a cool point u just made right there, and for sure, the worst thing i could do in my situation is not to approach at all. fact is, i've not been with a girl for 3 years!, let alone make an approach. how did you manage to make the transition from nice guy to mr attitude?

Hey Sharpe, I really relate to your post. My sister was quite dominant when I was growing up and it affected me in the same way as you describe ur Mum with you.

I'm starting to be less of a 'nice guy', and in relation to your post above I've found a great way to get started is to notice when ur being nice, and just stop it (i.e. don't offer to do things for girls, etc.).

A good rule I've been going by is: if you wouldn't do it for a guy mate of yours, don't do it for the girl. Would you do your friend's homework for them? Course not.

Other than that its just having the balls to say things to girls you wouldn't normally have the guts to. Stuff like, "Easy tiger." and "You're a bratty girl." Was really hard for me at first, but the more I do, the easier it gets.

I was so fearful of how they would respond, and how I would deal (or not) with that, it was stopping me even trying.

As soon as I stopped giving a fuck what they thought of me and just went balls-out, I started making significant progress.

Now I'm really liking being a 'badass' and spanking girl's asses within minutes of meeting them