my background
ever since middle school ive been a chubby kid. highschool i reached 250lbs at 5'10". i lost 80lbs the summer before senior year. i came back with high hopes. i put MAJOR emphasis on aesthetics/look and hoped the women would flock to me. never have i been any wronger. i realized that you need to actually talk to them. haha. i never had any female friends until senior year, ive never had a girlfriend or even been on a date. i came to college telling myself i would not regret it. i would be outgoing as possible and it would be a great time. now its half way through the year and it sucks. i can't seem to talk to women. sure i can have a little conversation, but i cant get past the acquaintance level. i also find that i suck at making female friends as well. i don't know what it is. i still have that fat kid confidence and mentality when i know im not fat anymore. when i talk to women, im always constantly trying to figure out what to say next, i start to speak quietly and they can't hear me. i always find my self questioning everything i do. like "what if they don't like me and i ask them to lunch and they don't want to" so i end up not asking them. i always have the "what if" lingering in my mind.

i hope to soak up as much material as i possibly can and make these four years of college amazing.

goals
be able to smoothly talk to women.
develop an unphasable and rock solid confidence level.
create a confidence level where i can make friends easily, be very outgoing.
basically become an alpha male that everyone wants to be around

any thoughts, suggestions or ideas ?
any recommended readings?

I wasn't fat. But my confidence used to be really low.

I got past it by setting myself really outrageous challenges during the day.
Today i walked up to my teacher and told him i thought he was really good looking and everyone was rolling on the floor in laughter.

I have been doing this for about 6 months and now it's as if nothing can make me feel shy anymore. I am a totally changed person. In about 3 weeks i am going to be singing infront of 300 people, this is something i could never do before.

It sounds like you and I have a lot in common... I too was the fat kid with no confidence that lost weight, and has no luck or game with the ladies. As far as reading goes, you should pick up "The Game" by Neil Strauss, though I didnt find it too terribly informative, its still a pretty good read and can get you familiar with some of the other techniques, lingo, and some of the abreviations people use. "Magic Bullets" seems to be a really good book so far too, though I am only half way done with it. Beyond that books on NLP, cold reading, and body language could be useful to read.

As far as confidence and approach anxiety goes, theres really only one way to beat it and thats to have it happen. Go out to a party or two this weekend with the intent on just talking to people. What have you got to lose? If they reject you then so what, you're in the same spot as you are now... except you did something to try to fix it. Start with opening and work your way up from there. A little alcohol never hurt the confidence either, but just becareful not to over do it... no one wants to talk to the guy thats slurring his words and obviously drunk.