okay, so i'm starting to realise there really is something to all this! i've found that by shifting my goals and my perceptions that people's reactions to you really do change. let me describe the modest success i've had first, then maybe someone could point out where i could have improved, and where i go from here.... (it's a long explanation, but i guess to get real feedback i'll need to give details so you guys know what i'm talking about. although i'm so new to this forum that i don't really know what the standard procedure is... someone tell me if i'm just waffling please).

my first approach was a couple of days ago in the morning on the way to my language college (i live in china) when i spotted a couple of girls walking ahead of me. i wanted to talk to them just for the practice, so i got up beside and asked them if they were going to the same school (kind of obvious shit) when i realised one was a gorgeous girl, so i decided to neg her about being in a lower chinese language level, and how i only mix with people of my own level (said with a cheeky smile), then complimented the less hot friend for being in a high level. somehow managed to isolate her on the way (not consciously, but whatever works), then tried as much DHVing and negging as i could. told her the only swedish i know (fitt prit=fanny fart), which she didn't seem too impressed with, but i told her that if that's all you know you've got to use it (again with a smile, though i'm not sure it went down TOO well). anyway, i decided to number close her anyway, if only for the practice, so i just gave her my phone and told her to put the number in, which she did.

anyway, i texted her a couple of days later and told her i was going to a bar with some classmates and that she could bring her class too (got a text back saying she was going somewhere else, but i didn't respond)... but then i ran into her anyway at a different bar and managed to get in more negging and DHV, and she definitely gave off some IOIs (some kino, punching me in the arm after negs, asked me to add her on facebook). then when she gave me a pen to write down my full name i tried to run the peg memory test on her (it's worked SOO well with other people, i'll go on to that in a sec) BUT.... she got a bit awkward and said she was boring and didn't want to play the "game" (referring to the peg memory, not "the game"). i didn't really know how to take that, so i just tried to brush it off (not sure how convincingly though), then she said her friends were leaving and she had to go, but that she'd see me in school. so i'm not quite sure how to take that.

i've played it fairly cool so far and haven't displayed any explicit interest, and i keep getting her to validate and prove herself, but i'm really really new to this and i'm not sure how i can get it to (and past) the comfort level. should i maybe send her a text and tell her i'm doing something fun (shopping at a cool store, having a coffee in a great bar, etc) and invite her along? or just keep on negging her and push-pulling when i see her in school?

anyway, besides her i also chatted to a few others in the bar including this chinese girl who was at the bar with a friend being flirted with by the barman. the guy made me ask about 5 times for my drink and kept me waiting because he was talking to them, so i decided to alpha him (that was actually the main reason i decided to talk to the girls!) so i told them in chinese that the guy must be a bit slow mentally, and that he's probably the worst barman in the world, which they laughed at (seems that if a foreigner says anything in chinese it will get a decent reaction), then i started chatting to the less hot one and found out where she was from, moved over to the other girl and pretty much negged the fuck out of her for the next 20 minutes with a good C+F schtick. i got her to offer to teach me to cook chinese food, and i ran the peg memory on her (worked a charm), and got in loads of kino. good end to proceedings too, when i went for a kiss on each cheek, then got her to plant one on the forehead too for good measure.

so i'd say i played that one pretty well, but again i'm not too sure how to proceed. i can invite her over to mine and get her to teach me to cook (good for negging, kino, and comfort building i guess), but i'm not sure how to naturally make things more sexual, particularly with some of these chinese girls who don't often express their sexuality. any tips here would be great.

needless to say, i also had a few unmitigated disasters! tried to podium dance with 2 girls and got chatting to one of them, but she was showing some serious IODs, and within a minute i was dancing on the podium alone! oh well, i'm learning to take it all in stride and remember it's NO BIG DEAL!

anyway, these are some of my experiences so far. i feel like i'm warming to the task, but as i'm definitely going to need some pointers along the way, so any advice would be golden!

peace

edd