hey all, i have read through many of the forums placed on this site, i have been searching for one that relates to my scenario but couldn't find anything.

I had a gf but we boke up a month and a half ago, the reason why is that we both had a ot of shit that needed taking care of. but we have always been close with eachother and after reading some qoutes a topic i think that there is a chance of getting back with her again. i know most of you will say that there wont be a chance but i want a challenege and i am asking you for ideas for a way to win her back. she is really important to me.

she comes over my flat majority of the time, if she gets the chance to, and we always have a good laugh. she is never alone though, her best mate is always with her and tbh that doesn't bother me at all as she does givve out most of the banter.

all i am askin is for someone to help me ask her the question where it does not show clingyness or needy but at the same time it needs to mean something

Hey bambi08,

I'm sort of a noob myself, but I think it's much easier to analyze someone else's position and prescribe solid advice. Now u haven't really provided enough detail about the break-up and ebb and flow of ur relationship. But from what u have provided, I would recommend gaming her friend if possible to build up jealousy and social proof. I'm not saying persue her friend necessarily, just give her more of ur attention. An even better idea might be to bring both of the girls out with u to a social event and game other girls.

The more you focus on this one girl, the more you will likely push her away. You can't try to convince her to get back together...all you can do is show her what she is missing out on. So, if you recall Rob's advice to Mikey in Swinger's, it's pretty similar:

Rob: I mean at first you're going to pretend to forget about her, you'll not call her, I don't know, whatever... but then eventually, you really will forget about her.
Mike: Well what if she comes back first?
Rob: Mmmm... see, that's the thing, is somehow they know not to come back until you really forget.
Mike: There's the rub.

The challenge will be ur ability to demonstrate that u have moved on...and you're over her. You'll know you've succeeded when she's seeking your attention.

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