Hey guys. So, I'm not completely new to game and this community, but i'm new on this site and forum and whatnot. I'm 20 years old and a college student here in the states. I have never been good with women. All my life growing up I have been rejected because I was the epitome of an AFC. I actually by some grace of God was able to hold a steady high school girlfriend, but because I was that AFC, she cheated on me and that was over.

I went through my most of my first year just being the same guy I was until a friend of mine showed me David Deangelo's Double Your Dating and the Venusian Arts. My game has definitely improved, but I still have a very bad subconscious case of "one-itis". I know it's bad and completely for AFCs, but I can't deny that.

A new year is on the horizon and I want to rock the tits off this year. I guess I'm asking for tips on Inner Game and maybe a little Outer Game. I just feel like I'm hitting a huge plateau and starting to lose faith in all of this. I can open fantastic, but comfort and moving are tough and I feel like I don't build enough attraction.

Suggestions on awesome books? Methods? Ideas? Theories? I NEED to start living a better life, but I'm not sure where to start. I've tried this before, but all I did was changed little things and it didn't work. I know this sounds sort of strange, but I need a little advice to dump this AFC one-itis bull$*^* and start over.

Some of the greatest advice I have heard, and I have said it a few times on this forum, is that the best (and easiest) cure for 'one-itis' is MORE WOMEN. Get out there and crash and burn a few times, you will come across plenty of girls that DON'T shoot you down constantly. In fact, I was very surprised when I started that the vast majority of girls WANT people to talk to. I haven't had a sarge yet without at least one good response.

As for inner game and all that, that really depends on you. Instead of going out and trying to impress, go out and see if you can BE impressed. It's not their time that you are wasting, it's your time that they are wasting.

And as for 'living a better life' I have found that getting out often and keeping busy pretty much takes care of the rest of your life. You no longer have time to be a slob, since it will bite you in the ass in the long run. Everytime you do somehting and feel a little pang that it may not be very good for you in the long term, change it. Or don't do it at all.

Good luck and keep posting, there's plenty of people here willing to help!

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What is it about comfort and attraction that you find difficult? I won't pretend to be an expert at this either, and I sometimes have that same feeling of hitting a plateau, but just be aware that other guys go through the same thing. Backfire's right, if you've got one-itis you need to open your eyes to all the other women out there. As for improving your skills, what worked when you learned to open? Was it a set of routines you learned and finally internalised? If so, try the same tactic with comfort-building and attraction building. Or was it a set of attitudes? If so, try that for your comfort/attraction. Everyone learns differently, you've got to find what works for you.

And report back so we know if it works