One, but the lightbulb has to WANT to change.

Hi I'm brand new to this forum and brand new to PUA.

AFC. Deffo, that's me.

That said, I should explain one or two things about myself.

First up I've just finished nearly half a year of therapy for being shy. Call it social anxiety/phobia, call it "can't think of anything to say" syndrome, call it shy... that was me. Catastrophically, I mean so bad that I couldn't even go to seminars at uni because I'd have to make eye contact with people and perhaps even talk to them... so I just wouldn't go.

If you or anyone you know is or has been there, GOOD NEWS, it's beatable, REALLY beatable... You just need to make the jump to saying "this is a problem I'm going to deal with" and start reading about CBT or better yet track down a cognitive behavioral therapist.

I reckon I'm far from the only person here to have had a particularly fucked up childhood, which influenced my confidence with er, everything, but particularly women... so perhaps some of you can see where I'm going here...

After years of motorcycle abuse (how the hell am I still alive?) Alcoholism and hard drugs, I'm finally living off my own confidence, not an adrenaline/ substance induced state of "ok enough to talk to people".

But that's not enough. I now know what can be achieved when you know how to go about changing your thoughts and behavior... and I want more, lots more. I want the ability to get women, I want money, I want a yacht, I want a castle, I want an Apache attack helicopter and as much as any of these I want to help ANYONE ELSE WHO'S EVER HAD THEIR CONFIDENCE TAKE A KICKING, TO GET IT BACK AND GET ALL THESE THINGS TOO.

BUT:

I've got a long term girlfriend... so why am I here? I'm not the type to cheat on a girl so... For one thing I'm here to learn (and just perhaps teach a little) about confidence.

Secondly things are NOT going well, I see her friends probably twice a month and visit her as often (7 hour journey), she's seen my mates and visited my house once this year. Why? She's too shy, it's not that I'm being taken for a ride, she just really is too shy to deal with my world... or at least so she makes out. She's on a last chance to keep hold of me... Says she wants to get married, breed etc... But unless she's prepared to change too, it's over.

I'm not going to cheat on her but I at least want the ability to get girls if I want... If I decide to keep her, I'll know it's because she's worth it, not because I'm scared of being alone. Does that make sense?

Perhaps this is even in her interests. Don't think I'll be sending her a link however!



So to round up: I'm that lightbulb, I know a lot about how to change and I'm committed to doing it. I want to know how and what to change and I want to help others too, there's nothing I like more than out-arguing an ultra loudmouth alpha male retard, except the thought of then leaving with his woman. I'm all ears for questions about overcoming shyness, so fire away if you like.

I'm 29 and I've just been born.

"How does it feel
To be on your own
With no direction home
Like a complete unknown
Like a rolling stone?"

F***ing brilliant baby, bring it on.

Oh and my score's 8 including one threesome (two very drunk girls and one ultra-drunk me).