I'm new here, and have been out of the game a loooong time. I work long hours and don't have a lot of time for a social life (date-hunting takes time). My job, however, puts me out and amongst many many desirable ladies. I've flirted, and have been flirted with, but haven't crossed the line with any of my customers. Is there a subtle way to test the waters and see which ones would be interested in after-work relations? I plan to keep this subtle, as I value my career.

Neg Neg Neg.

Don't flirt until you're out on a date with them. Thats whut I say.

While you're at work, Neg Neg Neg.

Read Mystery's 'The Venusian Arts' book. It'll tell you what I'm talking about

ps: where do you live?

West TX.

The flirting I've had is low level stuff. A wink & a smile. Commenting on a new outfit or hair-do, stuff like that.

Exactly my point. The lower it is, the LESS you think it's important, but the MORE it is important!

If that makes sense.

What I would do is, if they got a new haircut or dress, I'd playfully say 'ohhh, hun. Please tell me you didnt PAY for that '

she'll be like 'pay for what?'

an id be like 'that wig you're wearing over your head '

IF shes really HOT, she'll be shocked, but in a good way. (Not many people can insult a beautiful woman). Then just carry on a convo with hur, if it has to be short BUT, she's a regular - ask hur something stupid like 'Pirates or Cowboys?'. Then next time she comes, ask her 'Myspace of Facebook?'. Then after asking hur atleast 4 or 5 questions. DONT ask hur a question.

She WILL be shocked! Thinking ':O NO QUESTIONS TODAY?!?'

And then you can number close.

'Todays not really a question. More of a meet me at 7 o clock at the train station. Wear something snazzy. We'll do something fun' .

If she says she's busy, just act MAJOR cool an be like 'Tis fine. I'll get someone else. Unlucky, maybe next time hun .'

Noticed how I said, 'unlucky' to her? That way she will feel like she missed out on something and will hate that she had something already planned for that night!

Then... I'd wait a week or two before telling her.. 'Next Saturday. Meet me at Walmart at 7 o clock, by the bananas. '.

Good luck man.

Thats pretty much crossed the line out of neg. its not meant to be an insult which is a common misconception.

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Ace,

I agree, I understand the Cocky & Funny routine somewhat. My personality is pretty much like that, with people I know. I'm just getting adjusted to using my normal attitude on strangers/business contacts, rather than always being the respectful nice guy. FWIW, I'm out seeing customers in their offices/businesses, etc. My interaction is pretty much daily, but short. Thanks for the input!