Hey guys.

I heard about the PUA community by chance when my ipod battery died one day while driving, so I switched on the radio where they were talking to some guy who claimed 'The Game' changed his life. I was so intrigued by the discussion that I ordered the book online that evening after work.

I am 23. I did relatively ok with women up until I was 19 then I started losing my hair. I lost a lot of confidence, I even flunked out of university because I was so ashamed of how I looked. Over the past few years I've gone from 180lb to 230lbs, I am fortunate that I am 6ft6 so I can carry the weight without looking fat. I looked at a recent picture of myself last week and I look horrible, I need to shed 40lbs and convert the rest to muscle so I feel good about my appearance.

Needless to say, I've had next to no luck with women over the past three years. I never bothered trying for fear of being rejected plus the fact I don't feel comfortable with how I look.

I don't have any female friends, just a couple of male friends so I don't have a great social circle. I hate it when my friends talk about women they were with, and I have to try steer the conversation in another direction because I have nothing to add.

Anyway I started reading 'The Game' a few months ago, but I got side tracked half way through due to work, study and exams. I started reading where I left off last Thursday, hopefully I'll be finished reading this weekend.

I was in a night club last saturday and I ended up talking to this hot American girl. I was out with my brother. Normally I go out with one of two friends who have no interest in talking to women, only drinking for the whole night. Anyway, I must have been chatting to her for two hours, it was approaching the end of the night. The DJ played a pretty popular song in my country at the moment. I said to myself 'fuck it I'll ask her to dance', this is something I have never asked a girl before. She gladly accepted, I knew she was interested when she took me to a quiet corner of the club and we danced together. I led her to dance floor and after a few minutes I asked her does she want to kiss me. We kissed a couple of times.

This is the furtherest I have got with a woman in three years. She was definitely up for going back to mine, except for her friend came out of nowhere towards the end of the night and pretty much took her away from me. I checked her myspace page and she she actually has a boyfriend back in America, which kind of makes me feel even better about myself.

I am hoping to really get into the PUA scene over the next few months and completely change my luck with women and develop a sense of confidence for other aspects of my life.

Thanks for reading,

Showcase

nice to meet you man, sounds like you're in a similar situation as me...not many girl friends...guy friends that just want to get drunk.

good luck on becoming a PUA heh.

where ya from btw? somewhere overseas it sounds like.

when i was going to the uni, I found the easiest place to find non-stuck up girls to dance with is on a 80s night.

Hey Pood.

I am Irish. For most young people here alcohol is pretty much 'The Sun' that all social activities revolve around. Most of my friends are happy to sit in the same seat in a bar for the whole night. This is definitely something that has held me back over the years.

I dropped out of college when I was 20. I am working full time now but last year I started a part time degree course a couple of nights a week after work so its not really a college lifestyle as most of my class are older than me and settled down.

Btw I should add, that I struck up a friendship with a very good looking girl in my course, everything was initiated by her, she even gave me her number. We were texting and emailing each other every other day between classes. Then one day this Alpha Male somehow butted his way into our little group of four people (Me, her and two other girls). I just couldn't compete with him, he was so charming and funny that I felt like a outsider looking in. For some reason I separated myself from the group and for the last four months I was just saying 'Hello' and 'Good Night' and sitting in different rows to the group. The term is over until September now. I am really pissed I allowed this to happen because I pretty much had three hot girls as friends, now I have zero.