Hello everybody. I'm new here and need some advice and tips.

I want to learn how to pick up a woman that I really like and want to be with.

How can I go about doing this?

Welcome man!

The best advice I can give to learn the skills you need is to Read! Read Read!

The most important thing you want to make sure of is that you get the basics down so that you don't need to rely on anything to stand on your own. Think of it like a piano player who can play phenominally with sheet music (material) but once the sheet music is gone the person doesn't know the fundamentals (pickup theory) to compose on their own and can't play to save their life.

There is no right method for everyone. You want a course which emphasizes undersanding of alpha behavior and the mechanics of attraction so that you will understand how a woman's mind works and what sets off her attraction triggers.

- Chris

Hey, thanks Chris! I really appreciate the feedback man.

But also I wanted to know and understand. So what is it mostly that would attract me most to the girl that I like in her mind that would make her attracted to me?

Every girl is different. It is a mix of her social and culural programming but just as you find an attractive woman hot women also have certain triggers (namely personality based) which attract women. It's very complex and I don't recommend trying to apply a loose interpretation (take the time to learn them throughly). I got taught a loose interpretation, didn't apply it correctly and ended up coming off as nothing more than an arrogant asshole.

But basically what it comes down to is being an upredictable, independent, mysterious man (think James Bond). If you watch animal shows on PBS or Discovery Channel, many species have a dominant male who has sex with all the females in the group, while the other males get none while waiting for him to die or until they are tough enough to kick his ass and become the alpha male themselves. Many males never get to be an alpha male (never get laid).

Often it seems like you know guys who are always getting laid and other guys never get laid. You'll even see women talking to/hanging out/being friends with the average guy, but then sleep with some other guy (even if he is a jerk, sleeps around and doesn't respect them). The guy who gets laid is playing the role of the alpha male, while the other guys are submissive males.

I'm saying be the guy who gets laid. That guy is confident that he's going to get laid, because he knows he's an alpha male. He knows that women and people in general want to be with him so he doesn't shy away from conversation and meeting new people. He doesn't worry what others think about him when he's doing his thing. He takes control of a situation with authority. He knows he's fun to be with because he is always having a good time and therefore he _is_ fun to be with. He knows that if he is in a group of guys and a group of girls, he will be the one the girls choose to be with, and by having this to be the expected outcome, it is a self fufilling profecy.

Ok here's, how I did the Alpha/Dominant Male thing.... First I created a model of what I thought a Dominant Male should be. Much the same as the one stated before. Then I used it to change my frame of reference about myself, ie I stepped into my model of the Dominant Male. I claimed what I knew to be my genetic right. nd I didn't care who knew it. I didn't make excuses for it either. I just excepted it as the natural order of things. This is not an outward thing that you do but rather an inward change that radiates outward in everything you do.

Being the alpha male is all about attitude and projecting the image that you are fun to be with and the woman should want to be with you. Being the alpha male is self perpetuating. The more you believe you are the alpha male, the more you become the alpha male."

- Chris