| Hey guys!
I’m completely new to the website and to practicing ‘game’ overall, so I figured I should introduce myself first.
I’m a guy in his late twenties and I’ve never been one to interact with girls easily, to say the least. In fact, I’ve never even dated a girl. I’ve lost my virginity at a very young age, without any effort from my side, but have not ‘gotten lucky’ since then.
During my life, I’ve fallen in love 2 times. Could have been more, probably, if I let my guard down. I screwed it up both times.
The first time I fell in love, ‘t was with a gorgeous girl that I met through a friend (believe me, she really was one of the most beautiful girls I had ever seen). She came up to me, not the other way around, and we talked and talked and she gave a lot of signals.. but I just could not believe that a girl this beautiful could ever be in to me, so I literally turned down an invite to sleep with her. You can imagine how pissed I was at myself afterwards.
The second time was with a girl that I’ve known for a while. At first I just liked her, but after a while I found out how amazing she really is and fell for her character as well as her looks (cause she’s quite nice looking as well). I was too anxious though and told her about my feelings. She did not specifically turn me down, but let’s say nothing happened ever since, although we remain very close friends. I can’t really blame her though, cause to be honest I wouldn’t date myself.
And that’s my main issue.
I’ve been programmed my whole life to think I’m less than other people, due to severe bullying and blatant discrimination in my youth. If you look up ‘Inferiority Complex’ in the dictionary, it would point to me. Objectively, I know it’s all bullshit. I’m actually pretty average and I have a lot of friends that are less attractive (in several ways), that are able to pick up the hottest girls. But a voice in me keeps telling me that I am less. This is all the fundament of a vicious circle; I am not attractive because I am less. And I am less because I am not attractive. Bla bla bla.
A few days ago I decided something important though: Fuck that voice and fuck the people that imprinted it.
I might not be the most attractive guy there is, but I’m at least average and there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. After all, most people are average, that’s why we call it average. And I have the most fantastic friends that I could wish for so there must be something in me that draws these people to. I’m intelligent, funny and overall a pretty nice guy.
I have decided to break the vicious circle and pick up on NLP, building rapport and Game. I am an absolute rookie, more lvl 0 than lvl 1, and have decided to register to this website so I can learn from the likes of you. Not just to pick up women, but to feel about myself overall, as a lot of the dynamics are applicable not only to dating situations, but pretty much any social encounter.
Hope to learn a lot of you guys. Thanks in advance!
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