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I am 35 years old, Pacific Islander, successful doctor. I was raised traditionally and that was the way I approached dating. Back when I was in medical school, I finally had the chance to go to the bars and meet women there. I had no game but I relished in it because I simply wanted to see beautiful women but I had this notion that none of them will be a suitable partner anyway. At the time I had long hair and a muscular 5'7 190lb frame, so I did attract some women and slept with maybe 2 or 3 in the whole two years. I did it with little flirting or game although the texting did turn into sexy talk. But I kept being the attached, looking for long term type of guy and when I got rejected (even from the women whom I slept with!) it hurt me deeply. But not so much with my other friends who were out there to have fun and sex. Because I worked out hard, those that I hooked up with or got some success were HB7-8 (to me of course), while my friend would get HB2-6 but he has the quantity (just read the acronyms).
I finally went into online dating (still at my medical school years) and found someone whom I thought would be my life long partner [as a side note, I got more responses online when I had a half naked or wife beater muscular body posted than a shnook with a white coat]. She was the first and only long serious relationship I had. The funny thing is that she turned out to be my neighbor at the dorm I was in. She was actually seeing two guys before I snagged her. One of the guy was a magician. [So guys, I agree with all the stuff about Magnetic Messaging and such... a magician is funner so the rich doctor thing won't always get an instant lay!]. You can say she is HB9. I did sleep with her a couple of times and after a few dates, she rejected me over text. I was furious [after reading the stuff about Magnetic Messaging and such, I learned I was a needy guy]. I asked her about this magician guy's education and why. I began incessantly texting her. She was gracious enough to keep responding [in retrospect, she was still hanging on to me as an option]. I sent a final text saying "Well if he ever hurts you or leaves you, you can always give me a call. I'll be waiting (end of Mr. Needy text). Her online profile went down.
She came back of course, since she learned after spending time with that guy, he was nothing but a bum... no future so to speak. So I was back online, getting it on with an interested divorcee (another Hb9, middle eastern lady), then I saw her profile back up. So I texted her to ask how things are going. Initially she texted back saying how I knew she was available. She even thought I was stalking her (well, I guess I was in a sense). I said no I wasn't and it was just a coincidence. I did say I was dating someone but I wanted to meet her in my room. She came over with a friend (and she later revealed she had pepper spray ready) and I turned into Mr. Needy Chaser and mentioned she was the one, etc., etc.). But she finally relented and saw that I was just really a nice guy.
I was with her for 6-7 years. But the relationship turned sour. In the beginning, she was slighty materialistic but all for good reasons... it meant her getting a fat wedding ring or a nice house together. But things changed when she started switching careers. It also changed when I decided to get a lucrative job in a small town. She turned into an acting career. Lot's of fights about moving into a city. Suddenly she was not thinking about family... thinks that marriage is not important, etc. Meanwhile, being the same whipped (but very loyal and faithful) fool, I let her move into the city, funded her acting and paid her expenses, with the agreement that after 2-3 years if seeing how far she can go with her career, we can settle down. Well, a year later, she broke up because she could bear the sight that she knows she does not want to be a housewife and would rather be an actress. It was somewhat of a mutual break up. She did want to remain friends even with benefits but after all the emotion invested in her, I declined.
Now I am stuck with a busy profession, in a small town, with some sort of desperation in finding the one. Being older the choices are limited, but heck, I wouldn't want to date a potential mate over 33 for childbearing reasons. I hate dating at work because it is a small town and do not want the awkwardness that comes with it. I went back online and my game sucks... I manage to get someone interested but could not close the deal to even meet. I am still the same, physically fit just 35 years old instead of 28 back then. Currently, I just got flaked by a 30 year old teacher whom I thought was looking for a serious relationship. All we had was small talk emails and she did give me her number. I texted her with small talk and tried to get the convo exciting but she said her ex were getting back together. I worked out in the gym and although against my principles, I got an HB10 dietitian, physical trainer's number but I haven't called her, hesitating because she does work on the same floor. But there is attraction for sure, since this all happened in the gym.
What should I text to the 30 year old teacher? I like her profile a lot and I still have her number. Is there a chance for me getting her to have a date?
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