hey guys,

I am having trouble getting any girl. I mean i can make girls laugh all the time no problem, but i always seem to get stuck in the friend zone. I am kind of tired of seeing other guys get girls while i dont even know what to say or when to say it. I am currently talking to a girl, she says i make her happy but im stuck in the friend zone. She flirts with me and gives me mix signals. I wana know what game to use to make her love me. We text nearly everyday. I dunno if I should stop texting her for sometime and come back. I am really new to this. Thanks.

some guys are going to tell you lines and methods and techniques, but don't worry about all that. The more complex the plan is, the less its bound to work. understand that you can't "expect the world", and if the CIA can't figure out mind control by experimenting on thousands of canadian and american citizens (MKULTRA, look it up) then no PUA is going to figure it out by hitting on women. So all those methods that claim to know loopholes in female psychology, blah blah blah, ignore it. Its psuedoscience.

What isn't pseudoscience is your attitude. Most guys have an ego. Scratch that, all guys have an ego. Its either big or its small, and they either take it really seriously or they dont take it seriously at all, or they take it a bit seriously at some times, etc, etc. The point is if you want to get sex you gotta stop taking your ego (at least in regards to sex) seriously. Most guys on here are trying to "score" like nothing matters but the point you get from orgasming inside a woman, not even the orgasm itself. I say fuck that. this is about enjoying it and the moments leading up to it. you know that "desperation" women talk about all the time when they get hit on by a guy they dont like? well, its not desperation really, its just trying. and trying "too hard" really depends on the woman, but if you're not really trying at all then they'll feel like they gotta make you try because lets face it; 21st century women are entitled and want every man in the world to love them or they dont feel complete. This is just how the media society raises them. So evolutionarily they've been conditioned to go for the dominant male, who beats the rest. But socially they've been conditioned to ignore the ones who try the hardest, making a huge contradiction inside their minds.

One of the ways this contradiction manifests is by them WANTING sex, but making a bunch of requirements for it to happen so they dont feel like a slut. Rather than trying to meet these conditions, you should tell them its ok to want what they want, and that won't make them a slut. Another way this contradiction manifests is for them to convince themselves they want certain men they dont actually want and not want men they actually do want. Ever noticed a girl that only seems to want a guy after he's taken? Turns out they did a study that found women were more attracted to men they saw other girls smiling at when shown photographs. It shows a bigger reliance on what other people think to define their sexual habits, rather than what they think. You can relieve them from this burden by example, being a liberated sexual person who does not care what society thinks about his sexual habits. Then encourage them it is ok for a woman to do the same and they will be more comfortable making decisions for themselves around you. Or if you are good with social mechanics, you can rely on others to convince the girl you are a worthy sexual partner simply by the identity you portray. Or, least of all, you can fulfill her requirements, but this does not always work because usually one of the requirements is "not desperate" and trying too hard to fulfill them can be a catch 22.

thanks for the reply it helped me to understand the world of women.

So the girl that im talking to you, she has been texting me all day today askn if im okay, then she said she worried and if im okay,and i havent responded cuz i have been busy with work and i want her to know that im not always gonna reply to her texts. when i do reply, i was just gonna say like, "hey ive been busy, how are you? "

womens thinkin is sooo weird. i never understood why the guy who never calls or texts gets the girl, and why the girls just love assholes, now that u explained it i see that women want to make an effort to impress u, and its a guys job to make her run after you. i realy dont know when to cross the line in like texting. we have talked about sex and different positions and she tells me i make her happy, but then again one time she was like to get a girl u gotta be mean too, so as of now i havent responded to any of her texts and im playing the mean game.

Im really needing some advice in this situation. kinda of tired of her games and i wana show her whose boss, really tryna built the confidence up.

Thank You

Thats just this stupid game women play where they think anyone who "tries" to get with them is desperate and therefore not worthy of them, and guys who "make them work for it" are. Really its just an excuse to want what they can't have and dismiss the things they CAN have. The way society is set up keeps women being stingy with their pussy and keeps men perpetually unsatisfied sexually. That means men are constantly asking for sex and women are constantly turning them down, creating the ILLUSION that theres actually more men that want them. This is only a PERCEIVED abundance, because theres about as many guys as there are girls in the world, but since the guys are the ones asking the girls out they're the ones that get to overestimate their sexual worth.

how this usually ends up, is guys are always telling girls how amazing and pretty and wonderful they are just to get pussy, and women dont realize they're saying the same damn thing to every girl they find attractive. They think its not about pussy, its about them. But there's a part of them that realizes that dudes are bullshitting them for pussy, so it grows into an irrational fear that ALL men are going to use them for pussy and they have to defend themselves against this and fight you to get what they want (which ironically is usually sex disguised as affection disguised as "a guy who loves me for me"). The perceived abundance of sexual partners, along with the insecurity of being used for pussy means they're going to latch onto the first guy who DOESN'T bullshit them OR ask for sex. and hes usually an asshole. its not that he's ALWAYS an asshole, its just that assholes are the ones with the confidence to tell them what they honestly think of her. that means if you think she looks fat in that dress, say so. and if you think she looks good in that dress, say so. it means dont tell her you think shes pretty because you're hoping she'll reward you with sex. it means saying what you want regardless of she thinks about what you want, and making it clear that her opinion of your opinion will not influence your opinion. this is confidence. this is what women find attractive.

You're on the right path if shes talking about sex with you. Take your game offline. You need kino, you should be having the sex conversations with her in person if you ever want it to lead to something. Physical contact is everything now. Over text girls can be sexually expressive but unless they've actually openly admitted it, they can do what i call a "fearquit", where they set up a date to have sex and then they're so nervous they back out at the last minute. Some PUAs would say build sexual tension, but this is HORRIBLE for text game, because theres no chance of releasing that sexual tension through actual sex so it often turns into nervousness or anticipation, which can make them dread it and kill your game. I've found being nonchalant is much better, at least until you've got them there with you.