Hi guys, I'm 22 years old, born, raised, and living in New Jersey, and trying not just to improve my game, but totally get back on the scene after leaving a relationship that lasted almost 5 years through high school and much of college. Since then, I have had no girlfriends or even hook-ups in about 3 years. I was really able to do great things for my career as a classical percussionist and pianist during college by being so focused and spending a lot of time practicing and teaching but now I'm graduating and going on to a conservatory in a different state and am sick of not having the confidence to approach women and be successful in getting at LEAST phone numbers.

I think it might be worth saying that I'm not described as the average band nerd. In fact most people I meet for the first time tell me they would never have guessed that I study classical music until I share my passion with them. Most friends I go out with are not musicians and have nothing to do with it. I keep my style current and clean cut and enjoy riding my motorcycle and going to the gym.

I often think to myself that because I was locked into a completely monogamous relationship for so long, so young, that I missed a lot of skills acquired through dating and multiple sexual partners, and now feel very out of the loop having only had 1 serious girlfriend. Even a bit awkward with girls I am meeting for the first time.

I'm not even really sure where to begin here but am willing to do whatever I can to turn myself around and meet more women. I seem to have a "sort-of" situational approach anxiety. I had a job selling women's perfume in Macy's and was very successful at it. I say "sort-of" situational though because I was not trying to get laid, I was selling a product. When the idea of picking the girl up or flirting is out of my mind, I am sociable and can talk to anyone. It's in a bar, or on the street or train etc that I feel like I don't have anything to say or a way to even escalade or carry on a conversation with a girl I am attracted to with the purpose of getting her into bed.

Anyway, all good advice is appreciated. Thanks!