| Hi homies, I am a 24 years old university student, currently in USA from Asia. Although I am this old, I had never been in a serious relationship with a girl before. Hence, I am kinda new in texting, flirting, and maintaining relationship with a girl. I am looking for materials as well as exchanging ideas into how to attract girl whom I really like.
(If you don't want to hear about my lengthy story about myself, you could stop reading up till here.)
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Feel free to debunk, I am the type of guy who believes in one special girl in a life paradigm. As such, I had never proceeded beyond 4 months in a relationship with any girl before because once I sense incompatibility, I did not pursue.
Just a story of myself, when I am 16, my friends considered my physical attractiveness to be above average on the national level. As such, I did not have problem getting good first impression of the girls around.
The cute girl (Pretty eyes, fair skin, and decent curves) that I started developed feelings for also attracted to me at the time (She gave some signals as well as the friends kept giving obvious hint). 2 months into knowing her, she treated me to a dinner and stuff. However, after awhile, i realized that i was attracted to her beauty rather than personality, thus I turned cold towards her. Everything died off, but I feel sort of accomplishment because I did not really do anything to chase a girl. The first girl made me feel that I can just sit back and wait for girls to chase me. However, this was a huge mistake that took me along while to discover.
During last 2 years of high school, I did not actively chase any girls, even though I know a few cute ones were interested in me. Two girls from my class were pretty(girl A,B), A initiated to talk to me face-to-face, and on messenger, but I did not actively flirt with A. Hence, everything just died off from them. However, I felt interested in another girl D who was from my sports group. I did not let her know that I was interested in her, we barely talked (because i was in the guy's team, she was in the girl's team, and we trained separately). However, I thought that to initiate a relationship is a make or break thing. Without knowing how she felt, I asked her out by texting her. I got rejected.
At the same time, there was a girl C in my class that stalked me, C creeps me out because in the whole of 2 years we barely talked and she sent a letter to express interest upon graduation.
I was 20, I was talking to a girl E in class (friendly not flirtatious). During this time, girl E knew that girl F was interested in me. However, girl F really disgusted me because she did a lot of obvious things that made me really uncomfortable. Girl E ask me if I would consider girl F, i said "no, bcos im not suited for her".
When I tried to asked a girl E out via text. At first, she said 'yes'. However, within an hour or so, she said 'no'. Asking for the reason, she gave the same exact reason I told her why I would not date girl F.
During 22, I was really careful this time with a new girl G (cute face, petite, and had nice ass). I started to became real careful this time. Upon receiving several IOIs, then i proceeded tell a girl G i am interested in her (when she asked for my number). However, she was really shocked at that time and said that i am spontaneous. All goes well as she initiated to text me and deliberately flirted with me, but i think i was kinda bastard as I did not respond positively by playing along but was sitting on the fence. This is because i was thinking that I need to be her BF first before continuing. Apparently, my logical thinking failed me terribly. Once, I was kiss-close with her, but I sort of ignored it because she did not reciprocate her feelings to me verbally or on text in explicit form. She did so subtly by flirting with me in presence or on text messages (calling "dear", sticking very close to me and looking into my eyes) but never saying "I like you". Because of the terrible close, things gone downhill. There were a few misunderstandings, we start to ignore each other, and things turned cold.
Because of girl G, I was determined to not screw up again. At the same time, I am now older, and my physical attractiveness dropped a lot from when i was 18. Now, I met girl H, she was the type of girl similar to girl G, which i am interested in. Starting, I was shy and she initiated to talk to me. Then I became warmed up and talked to her more often. There's was a period when we got really comfortable with each other. However, after I reprimanded her once, she starts to turn cold. Now, she is in Canada and i proceeded to text message her (Long distance relationship). At first we talked on text message, then there's a period of hot and cold. Currently, things are getting cold between us and I stop messaging her because she stop initiating to message me and starts to take a long time to reply (from within seconds/1min ~1 hour to 10mins ~4hrs/half a day). I am not sure whether I need to re-initiate(because i know that she would not initiate), and if i re-initiate, will my value drop? (I had last talked to her 6 days ago)
However, because we knew a same group of friends, I am going to meet her and the group of friends in 16 days time in Boston to travel. I really want to give my best (we are like long distance apart and meeting in Boston) and know her better. Currently, I am clueless for what to prepare and do. Hence, I am looking out for materials/advice to impress girl H to be my girl.
I really appreciate constructive comments, THANK YOU!
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