Hey everyone. I've been lurking for a couple years. I've had some huge successes, and some even bigger failures. How do you all think Pick Up applies to Single Dad's?

Here's a brief summary of my situation:

I got married right after college my ex was beautiful, a solid 8.5 when we got married. I've got two beautiful kids a little girl that's almost 6 and a 3.5 year old boy. They're great. During the divorce, (which was brought about by infidelity on her part) I was in nursing school (second career and degree). That was 3 years ago. Since completing school I've obtained a full time job AND recently a part time one as well. Both in ER's. One normal everyday and the other at a large pediatric hospital.

Basically all I do is work and keep my kids. Before taking on the part time position I had some "success" dating. Mostly girls from high school that I reconnected with and some random nurses/nursing students.

Now I feel like I'm ready to go out and find something more than the hookup. But I believe in Pick Up, or the Game, or quite simply the thought processes I've learned. For me all this boils down to presenting my best self, and maintaining some semblance of control in the relationships I enter into.

Well nothing I've read has prepared me for this type of game. I can approach, I can even close. But now with such limited time I'm not sure how to attack this. Is it even possible? I'm not down for bringing in a bunch of random women to meet my kids. But also my time with them is very important to me. I don't have them enough to justify pawning them off on babysitters or family to go out and find that next real relationship.

Any suggestions you guys have would be welcomed. I respect the individuals here and their opinions. I'm looking for some help, and I hope I'm in the right place to find it.

Finally a little more specific - I kind of fell into a dating situation with a real knock out. She's a 10. Legit. Amazing body. Well she invited me to a high school football game. Told me to bring the kids. I complied, but tried to implement some of the tactics I've learned. I've got to tell you it's tough with kids in the mix. Well she was VERY involved with my children. Which was almost as big of a turn on as the sweater she was wearing. Her family was there, and I worked them like a set. They loved me. I was dropping the occasional neg on her. Mom, even said something like "I think you're great for her, nobody ever 'gives it back to her' like you do." I also need to say - she's about 25 (I'm 30, but feel a lot older because of the life experiences I've had), and I noticed people were blowing her phone up, which I expected. I pretended not to even notice. Where do I go from here?

Hello and welcome.

It seems to me you are doing well for yourself. Your kids are a priority of course, but at the same time they are also a filter for women who are ready to commit to a serious relationship. Regarding the HB 10, it sounds really good so far. If you like her, pursue that option and see how it goes. Set up something with her, alone this time. Tease her, be playful, kino etc. No need to f-close her (IMHO), k-close is enough, what's important is that you establish the frame of a guy that has it together. This is probably what she's looking for. Leave her wanting more, unlike all the other guys trying to jump her. You already have the support of her family, which is half the battle. I don't know how your comfort levels are, but you can certainly build it and have her open up to you. I'm sure you'll do fine.
From a female perspective, I can tell you that young single dads are hot, that is if they're good dads, involved in the life of their kids. This is an advantage in getting the type of girl that you're probably looking for, so yes, it can be done. My good friend's recently separated, his kid is 3 years old and I can tell you women love him. I'm sure he'll have no trouble getting back in the game and neither will you.

Good luck!

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